IM's and Resuscitation

I bet you are all wondering how the title of the above came to be........

Yesterday I was inundated with IM's from a new person whom we shall call Senor J.  (Pretend that there's a 'tilda' over the N.)  He was very 'chatty' and seemed very nice.  He sent me long e-mails throughout the day pouring out his heart and soul.  He's about an hour away, 60 years old and retired.  He asked to meet me on-line today for more IM's, but so far he's been MIA.  Well, we'll see where this one goes.......

In the meantime, I awoke to an apologetic e-mail message from Mr. M&M.  It seems he had some very bad financial problems as his accountant made some major errors on his tax return and it was not good news for him..  Apparently Mr. M&M got into a 'blue funk' and as he said, withdrew into himself and did not want to talk to anyone.  He said he would call me the end of next week.  Being the compassionate person that I am, I wrote him back and said I understood, hope he'd have a good 4th of July weekend and looked forward to his call next week.  (I can't call him since I deleted his number from my phone and all subsequent correspondence which is probably a good thing since I'll see if he really DOES call.)

Should I give the M&M man another chance?  Let's see if he's true to his word and DOES call back next week.  As far as Senor J, he sounds a little flaky to me.  He didn't even know what Face Book was, kept asking me the same questions over and over again and from the way that his e-mails read, he sounds a little illiterate to me.  Hmmmm......am I being too harsh?

Next installment coming soon.........

One Can of Anchovies and a Dozen PB Cookies

ARE YOU KIDDING ME!  Are all men SNAKES IN THE GRASS!

Mr. M&M has turned into yesterday's stale chocolate pieces!!  I e-mailed him last night to see if he was still coming over for dinner on Friday night, but no response.  I guess that's another 'loser' I can write about.  But wait.....it gets better!

A very dear friend of mine just happened to get an e-mail from him the very night that he 'supposedly' had to go to 'work'!  OMG!  Here is another snake in the grass!  My friend and I actually laughed about it.  I'm glad I've got her as my 'spy'!  Do these men actually feel like they have to see what's else is out there?  Is the grass greener on the other side?  Does this happen to be the way the 21st century man acts?  Are there any 'real' men out there, or are they all wolves in sheep's clothing?  At least when I got married, I married a gem!

Questions, questions, questions.  Well, at least I only bought a can of anchovies for the Chicken Putanesca I was going to make.  However, there ARE peanut butter cookies in the freezer that I had baked for him.  Too bad......his loss all the way around!  

Feast or Famine

It seems I either get lots of phone calls, IM's and e-mails from someone, OR nothing at all.  (See an older post dated April 20th.)  Mr. M&M texted me yesterday, I texted back.  I said to him to call me last night.  He never did.  I sometimes feel like a teenager waiting around for someone to call me.  Can I slap myself in the face now to WAKE UP and SMELL THE COFFEE! 

I realize people do have things in their lives and get busy etc., but I am a woman who keeps my word and when I say I'm going to call, e-mail, text or write someone, I do it!  But, of course, I'm not a MAN!  They do things that we women can and never will understand. 

Interesting note:  the other day I was on the website that Mr. M&M 'found' me on and apparently it monitors when you're last on it.  I looked Mr. M&M up and he was on it just a few hours before I was.  Is he 'cruising' again?  I believe that he's not looking for a serious relationship.  Are all of these 'losers/cruisers' the same way?


Feeling very disillusioned today. 

Back in the Saddle Again

I'm back from a trip up north.  It was hot, hot, hot!  Glad it's over though.  Staying at someone's house can be a little daunting at times....... You can fill in the blanks.

Perhaps I should have started this blog with the third date with Mr. M&M.  For those inquiring minds, it was very successful, sort of.  Unfortunately, it all ended rather abruptly.  After a really juicy hamburger at a local pub, I invited him back to my apartment for some home-made peanut butter cookies, some wine and a movie.  However, with no wine, no cookies and only 1/4 of the movie watched, he had to say good-bye.  He owns his own contracting/electrical company and there was a major problem at one of his clients:  Panera Bread to be exact.  It seems their wires fried and they could not bake the bread they're so famous for.  So after a few hasty kisses good-by, off he went to work.  I guess the evening was a success, for the short time it was.  At least he's a good kisser!

Anyway, we'll see what happens next.  I've invited him for dinner at my home next week.  Hope he doesn't have to run off then.  Of course my typical suspicious mind says, 'hmmmm.....was that call from another woman?'  Don't think so since he told me he hasn't had a date in 3 years.  But who knows.........we all know that "Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars"!!!!

It's In His Kiss!

"It's In His Kiss" made a hit back in 1964 by Betty Everette.  It was then revived by Diana Ross, Aretha Franklin and yet again by Cher many years later.  In the 1960's, it was known as the Shoop Shoop song (great back-up singers then).  Those of us 'oldsters' probably remember all the versions.

Well, it turns out that Mr. M&M man IS a good kisser!  We had a lovely, fulfilling dinner at the Macaroni Grill, took a walk in the park, chatted in the car and a few kisses later, said good night.  Once again, he treated.  A perfect date!  He is a simple, honest, generous and caring man.  He does seem lonely as he hasn't had a relationship in two years. 

He likes musicals (thank goodness) and his favorite is "South Pacific".  I took my lead from that and invited him for dinner in a few weeks with a viewing of "South Pacific" (thank goodness for my DVR).  He likes all kinds of foods (he does have a stomach, but so what) and I've got to come up with something gratifying, yummy and not too fattening.  NOTE:  Any suggestions would be appreciated here.

So as the saying goes, "One Day at a Time"...........

Telephone Tag

I was in the mountains yesterday with my daughter and her family.  We went to an art show and met some of her friends.  Communication on my cell phone was non-existent so when we finally settled back down to flat land and got home, I read the following message on my phone:  "You have 1 missed call."  Well, lo and behold Mr. M&M called me. 

I called him back right away, but his voice mail was on, so I left a message.  A few margueritas later at my daughter's, washed down with lots of water and some chicken kabobs, I drove home.  Getting ready to watch the Tony Awards, I noticed the same message on my phone again, "You have 1 missed call."  Are you kidding me?  My cell phone was sitting on the couch right next to me!  What gives!  Mr. M&M man called me back!  It turns out my cell phone was on vibrate and I couldn't hear it.  Grrrrrrrr...........

After putting the Tony's on hold (thank God for the DVR), I called him back.  What a sweetie!  He said he was thinking about me and wanted to know when we could meet again.  Nice!  I also mentioned that I'd be going away this Saturday for five days and he said he would miss me.  Another Nice!

So we talked for a few minutes, then decided to meet for dinner one night this week.  (This time Italian.)  Although I said I wanted to treat, he said no way.  I mean he can't keep treating me for dinner.  (Is my suspicious mind working overtime now and what 'payment' will I have to give for two dinners?) 
He'll call today and we'll set it up. At least he follows through.

Ahhhh....Italian food!  Something to look forward to.  A quote from my much loved deceased Dad:  "I'd rather clothe you then feed you!"

Ciao!

M&M Cookie Mystery Man - SOLVED!

We finally met!  After an exhausting day with my grandchildren in the park and no news about dinner with Mr. M&M, I decided to get myself some Pad Thai and hunker down with a good movie.  At 5:45 my phone rings and it's him.  He wants to meet for dinner.  (I just happened to be shopping in my favorite craft store and I went into 'rush' mode and drove home to get ready.)

We met at 7:30.  He was carrying one of those clickers from the restaurant.  As it turned out, there was a 40 minute wait and we weren't willing to.  So we looked at the 'wonderful' restaurant next door, and went there.  Wokano is a wonderful restaurant whereby the food is an infusion of sushi, thai, chinese, indian, italian and what have you.  Fantastic choices!  It also seemed he liked sushi......ahhhh, finally a man who actually likes sushi!  Since he knew what he was doing, I let him take the reins and order......and boy did he order!  Two appetizers, 4 rolls and one entree later, we were stuffed, but we didn't finish it all.  Guess who got to take it home?  The bill came.  He grabbed it.  I offered to pay half.  He said no way.  A man from the old school.  Nice. He was a sweetheart, a little overweight, but who cares.  We're all overweight when we reach old age aren't we? 

NOTE:  I did remind him that we spoke in December and mentioned that his phone number was hastily written on the M&M Cookie Recipe.  He laughed but vaguely remembered us talking.  That's fine.  No harm done. 

My M&M Cookie recipe will never be the same again...........let's see what happens next!

The M&M Cookie Recipe Caper

It is confirmed.  I am meeting the man from the M&M Cookie recipe tomorrow.  We are having lunch.  We spoke briefly last night to set up lunch for tomorrow.  He still is clueless as to who I am.  I believe that this is how it went last December (while I was baking cookies):

1.  He e-mailed me;
2.  I responded and provided my phone #;
3.  He called;
4.  We spoke;
5.  I called him the next day (while I was baking the cookies);
6.  He said he'd call me again;
7.  He never called back.

I hope the same scenario does not play out with him.  Although I've still not met him yet, I feel good about this one.  To quote my friend Paula, "I feel guarded optimism".  As far as Mr. Teddy Bear goes (lunch 2 weeks ago), he never called.  What is it with these guys?  Did I look funny to him, too fat, too skinny?; I wore my deodorant that day.....

Well, onward and upward and I will post after the M&M Cookie Man Lunch Date........stay tuned.

A Voice from the Past

On one of the e-dating sites (free) I received a message from someone who looked and sounded very intriguing.  So I wrote a quick note back.  He wrote back and I gave him my cell #.  Last night he called and sounded very, very nice but very, very familiar.

Apparently, (after remembering his name as well)  I put the pieces together and asked him what he did for a living.  He has his own contracting business and then it clicked in my brain:  I spoke to this man about 6 months ago.  We originally spoke on the phone (twice to be exact) and that was it.  However, we lost touch with one another.  I mentioned this to him but he didn't remember.  Then he gave me his # and I said I'd call him Sunday night.

But my curiosity got the best of me and I remembered that the last time I talked to him I was baking Christmas cookies and jotted his number down on the recipe I was using at the time.  So I got out my trusty recipe book and checked and written on the recipe for M&M Cookies, was his number!  The same # he gave me last night.  Was it woman's intuition, coincidence or fate?

Who knows, but he did sound sweet. 

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?

Mr. NOW is officially called Mr. SNAKE!
All good intentions from yesterday's post was to have another sushi date next week.  However, a writhing e-mail from Mr. Snake appeared in my in-box late yesterday and I was livid! 
It seems he no longer wants to be "Friends with Benefits" but just friends because, and are you all ready for this, he met up with a friend and they are an 'item' again.  ARE YOU KIDDING ME?  Is he serious?  But yet he still wants to meet me for sushi!  ARE YOU KIDDING ME?  I'm tired of being his doormat!

I've decided I can no longer be 'friends' with this snake in the grass.  OVER and DONE!  I'm tired of him giving me mixed signals and tired of his pretending.  He's jerked me around for the LAST TIME!
I know I've used a lot of CAPS in this post but that's EXACTLY how I feel.  I have not answered his e-mail yet as I'm going to let him stew for a while wondering why I didn't respond.  I'm sure I'll get another e-mail from him as the time gets closer to his suggested meeting date, next Thurs. or Friday.  I'll answer that e-mail then and state exactly what I stated above with a closing of have a nice life and I hope you find Miss Perfect!
Talk about a snake in the grass, a wolf in sheep's clothing; need I say more.