A funny thing happened the other night........
I had made contact with someone on one of the dating websites. He seemed nice looking and interesting and even better, he lived in my town. It took a few days for him to answer back. I was amazed at what he wrote............
Apparently, he was the ex-husband of my good friend that lives here in my complex. He said his son had figured out who I was and he thought it best that we didn't get into anything further. I thought that this was hilarious and proceeded to write back totally agreeing with him. I told my friend and she just laughed and laughed. Talk about coincidences!
On another note, are most of these guys on these dating sites liars or oblivious to life? They send a flirt or even a message, I write back and then I NEVER HEAR FROM THEM AGAIN!
Is it 'cold feet', lack of interest, laziness or just plain oblivion?
I'm really thinking that these sites post a bunch of losers. Debate with me if I'm wrong!
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
Neighbors
He lives in the same town; we contacted each other last March; he e-mailed again last week. Amazing.....we 're-connected'.
We met for coffee on Monday night and he was fun to be with. Smart, sexy and was a good story teller. A former Internal Affairs officer, I felt very safe with him.
We now e-mail (and text) every day and our next plan is for dinner on Friday night. We'll see..........
Is it fate that we re-connected again? Makes one wonder.........
We met for coffee on Monday night and he was fun to be with. Smart, sexy and was a good story teller. A former Internal Affairs officer, I felt very safe with him.
We now e-mail (and text) every day and our next plan is for dinner on Friday night. We'll see..........
Is it fate that we re-connected again? Makes one wonder.........
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
Neither Here Nor There
I made 'friends' with a man through one of the dating websites. We even 'friended' each other on Face Book and even 'Skyped' one another this past Saturday. We shared a 48 minute telephone call the night before. He seemed like a nice guy too and looked pretty good as well. So now it's like he's jumped off the face of the earth. No movement on Face Book, no e-mails. What gives?
What is it with these guys? Do they need a firecracker under their butts to wake them up? It's like they give you a tease, and then nothing. I just don't understand it.
Maybe it's me. In this world of IM's, e-mails, Skype, chat rooms and the old-fashioned telephone, there is no reason for someone not to keep in touch with someone......unless one find the other totally repulsive or one works 24 hours a day!
I just thought I'd put that out there....makes one think doesn't it?
What is it with these guys? Do they need a firecracker under their butts to wake them up? It's like they give you a tease, and then nothing. I just don't understand it.
Maybe it's me. In this world of IM's, e-mails, Skype, chat rooms and the old-fashioned telephone, there is no reason for someone not to keep in touch with someone......unless one find the other totally repulsive or one works 24 hours a day!
I just thought I'd put that out there....makes one think doesn't it?
Wednesday, September 7, 2011
No Fireworks, No Sparks, No Nothing
I went on a dinner date with a new guy last night. He wrote intelligent e-mails and his voice sounded good on the phone. However.......it was one big DUD!
There was absolutely no chemistry whatsoever. Another one of these guys talking about himself also. He made no mention of how I looked (is that too vain of me) and hardly smiled. We had two glasses of red wine and he swished the glass about 9 times and smelled it about 6! Maybe he was nervous....okay, I'll give him that much.
However, I do want to thank him for the dinner. But what do I say in the e-mail? I met someone (sure overnight, I met someone); I really am gay; I'm moving to Sydney, Australia.......Well, I guess the words will come pouring out of me when I finally sit down to write it. Any ideas??
Sometimes I think all of this is one big pain in the _ _t t!!!!
There was absolutely no chemistry whatsoever. Another one of these guys talking about himself also. He made no mention of how I looked (is that too vain of me) and hardly smiled. We had two glasses of red wine and he swished the glass about 9 times and smelled it about 6! Maybe he was nervous....okay, I'll give him that much.
However, I do want to thank him for the dinner. But what do I say in the e-mail? I met someone (sure overnight, I met someone); I really am gay; I'm moving to Sydney, Australia.......Well, I guess the words will come pouring out of me when I finally sit down to write it. Any ideas??
Sometimes I think all of this is one big pain in the _ _t t!!!!
Monday, August 29, 2011
Casinos and Newbies
My casino trip turned out fine. We had a good time, I won a little money and it was a nice day. He came back for a quick bite of leftovers, then left at 7:45. It was nice and we remain friends. He's coming over tomorrow night to take some new pictures of me to post on the dating websites. We'll call out for some Thai. Hmmmm.....I never had a man friend before. Interesting......
On another note, have corresponded with someone who is a 94% match! He seems nice and likes to cook! So we'll see where this goes.....
In the meantime, no crazies this week, thank goodness!
Will promise to keep you informed of the newbie in town.........
On another note, have corresponded with someone who is a 94% match! He seems nice and likes to cook! So we'll see where this goes.....
In the meantime, no crazies this week, thank goodness!
Will promise to keep you informed of the newbie in town.........
Wednesday, August 24, 2011
Seriously........
Are these guys for real? I swear, I can't make this stuff up.......
The latest communication I have gotten from three separate guys were ridiculous I didn't know whether to laugh out loud or shake my head in disbelief.
Guy #1: He 'flirted' twice. Two thumbs down: he looks like he's 300 lbs. and he's from New Haven, CT. Do these guys read profiles? Clearly there is major mileage from the East Coast to the West Coast!
Guy #2: Another mileage issue: someone flirted from Hawaii! I mean the Pacific Ocean is between us. Duh!
Guy #3: ........and I saved the best for the last........
Here's a guy who 'flirted' with his white bath robe on, sitting on a hospital bed and said he had no money but was looking for the 'right' woman. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?
Seriously, I'm not making this stuff up!
On to the casino on Friday with Mr. EX. We should have fun......friends usually do.
The latest communication I have gotten from three separate guys were ridiculous I didn't know whether to laugh out loud or shake my head in disbelief.
Guy #1: He 'flirted' twice. Two thumbs down: he looks like he's 300 lbs. and he's from New Haven, CT. Do these guys read profiles? Clearly there is major mileage from the East Coast to the West Coast!
Guy #2: Another mileage issue: someone flirted from Hawaii! I mean the Pacific Ocean is between us. Duh!
Guy #3: ........and I saved the best for the last........
Here's a guy who 'flirted' with his white bath robe on, sitting on a hospital bed and said he had no money but was looking for the 'right' woman. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?
Seriously, I'm not making this stuff up!
On to the casino on Friday with Mr. EX. We should have fun......friends usually do.
Saturday, August 20, 2011
Casino Talk
Sorry I haven't posted in a while. Not much going on this past week. Big weekend though: my grandson's 8th birthday! So exciting! He's so handsome and smart too!
Lately I have gotten some strange IM's from fellows I had corresponded with. Some of these people cannot write or even speak English! I can tell from the way a person writes/speaks how intelligent they are too; and lately they all sound like idiots. One guy even wanted me to move to Ohio with him! Are you kidding me? My life is here in Southern California with my family. Unbelievable! It's true.....you can't make this stuff up!
On another note (see title of this Blog), Mr. Ex e-mailed and we're going to a casino on Friday in pretty Santa Barbara County. He promised to take me to a lavish lunch so I'm going.....hey, might as well enjoy it while you can, right? At any rate, I'll probably be home by 6 pm. I mean how long can one gamble without losing their shirt?
Will post more this week.......PROMISE!
Lately I have gotten some strange IM's from fellows I had corresponded with. Some of these people cannot write or even speak English! I can tell from the way a person writes/speaks how intelligent they are too; and lately they all sound like idiots. One guy even wanted me to move to Ohio with him! Are you kidding me? My life is here in Southern California with my family. Unbelievable! It's true.....you can't make this stuff up!
On another note (see title of this Blog), Mr. Ex e-mailed and we're going to a casino on Friday in pretty Santa Barbara County. He promised to take me to a lavish lunch so I'm going.....hey, might as well enjoy it while you can, right? At any rate, I'll probably be home by 6 pm. I mean how long can one gamble without losing their shirt?
Will post more this week.......PROMISE!
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
General Comments
Words to describe some "newbies" that have written to me:
- uneducated
- annoying
- redundant
- persistent
- stupid
- ridiculous
- nosy
Bottom line..........is anyone out there normal? Or do I really care?
- uneducated
- annoying
- redundant
- persistent
- stupid
- ridiculous
- nosy
Bottom line..........is anyone out there normal? Or do I really care?
Saturday, July 30, 2011
It is What it Is.......
D-Day (Night) turned out very well. Chicken Putanesca was a big success, but I think it needed a few tweeks here and there. He brought dessert. Angel Food Cake with fresh, sugared strawberries. I supplied the whip cream.
Speaking of whip cream, it was ONLY for dessert. We both decided using it ANYWHERE else would be too messy.....no further description here.
Next day: home made fresh banana bread + coffee + newspapers. He left at 8:00 a.m. So why do I have this empty feeling? Why do I feel disappointed? Is this "Friends with Benefits" arrangement simply not for me? Is it really enough or do I want to share my every day with someone else? Can I do that again? Will he always be what he is? I guess it's time to do some real soul searching.........
However, we've arranged to go away for Fri./Sat. at a casino up north at the end of August. Great deal: 1 night $59! Certainly doable. I guess I'll just enjoy myself for now and the upcoming Fridays until I say 'enough is enough' and move on. Seriously, I don't know what I want.......at this point.
Sorry this post is such a downer. In the meantime, a very nice man e-mailed me. We'll see where this goes....probably no where as they never answer back. Soooo tired of the games we play..........
Speaking of whip cream, it was ONLY for dessert. We both decided using it ANYWHERE else would be too messy.....no further description here.
Next day: home made fresh banana bread + coffee + newspapers. He left at 8:00 a.m. So why do I have this empty feeling? Why do I feel disappointed? Is this "Friends with Benefits" arrangement simply not for me? Is it really enough or do I want to share my every day with someone else? Can I do that again? Will he always be what he is? I guess it's time to do some real soul searching.........
However, we've arranged to go away for Fri./Sat. at a casino up north at the end of August. Great deal: 1 night $59! Certainly doable. I guess I'll just enjoy myself for now and the upcoming Fridays until I say 'enough is enough' and move on. Seriously, I don't know what I want.......at this point.
Sorry this post is such a downer. In the meantime, a very nice man e-mailed me. We'll see where this goes....probably no where as they never answer back. Soooo tired of the games we play..........
Friday, July 29, 2011
D-Day
What did D-Day actually stand for anyway? D-Day (disambiguation). Okay. Back to Wikipedia. What in the world does disambiguation mean? Inquiring minds want to know........
Definition of disambiguation: clarification that follows from the removal of ambiguity. Okay that tells me a lot! Geescz!
Definition of disambiguation: clarification that follows from the removal of ambiguity. Okay that tells me a lot! Geescz!
am·bi·gu·i·ty/ËŒambiˈgyo͞o-itÄ“/Noun
1. Uncertainty or inexactness of meaning in language.
2. A lack of decisiveness or commitment resulting from a failure to make a choice between alternatives. More »
Okay, this could get ugly. NO MORE DEFINITIONS!!
At any rate, D-Day can also stand for dinner date.....just thought I'd throw that in.
Appetizer marinating in fridge, banana bread baked, chicken cutlets thawing.....things are looking good. Now to the thing I hate the most......cleaning the house! Grrrrrrrr!
More tomorrow.....for sure!
Tuesday, July 26, 2011
Will the Shoe Drop?
Okay.....feeling insecure, unsure and not confident. In other words, is Tom going to call/e-mail and say he's met someone else? As you all know, it's happened before.......
He did say he was going to call, but if I don't hear from him by Wednesday night, I'm calling him on Thursday morning. After all, I have a lot of groceries to buy for Friday's dinner (if it happens) and if he's not coming, I certainly will not use them up.
So why do I feel like this? Should I just live in the moment and 'que sera sera'? I guess the second option is best. I just worry too much. Is the Friday night friend the best scenario and it's 'as good as it gets' or will there never be another Friday night with benefits? Let's ponder this for a while........
He did say he was going to call, but if I don't hear from him by Wednesday night, I'm calling him on Thursday morning. After all, I have a lot of groceries to buy for Friday's dinner (if it happens) and if he's not coming, I certainly will not use them up.
So why do I feel like this? Should I just live in the moment and 'que sera sera'? I guess the second option is best. I just worry too much. Is the Friday night friend the best scenario and it's 'as good as it gets' or will there never be another Friday night with benefits? Let's ponder this for a while........
Saturday, July 23, 2011
Breakfast and 911
The salmon turned out wonderful along with the side dishes. I gotta say, there is nothing like fresh, caught fish! Yummy! I brought a lovely Pinot Noir to accompany the fish, but of course we finished the bottle BEFORE we even ate the fish! My dessert turned out a total disaster. NOTE to all bakers out there: NEVER use a cake pan that's not the right size for what the directions call for. This recipe was an orange bittersweet chocolate cake made with no flour to be made in an 8" springform pan. Well people, there were no 8" springform pans to be found! The 9" didn't work. Instead of my "cake" looking like a "cake" it looked like a chocolate PANCAKE! Anyway, Tom loved it but he upped my dessert and had made some home made butter pecan ice cream. More Yummy!
While waiting for the salmon to cook, we discussed lots of things and we reached an agreement that we will remain friends (with benefits) and we both think it's a good arrangement. He's actually tired of the dating scene (ahem) and being enthralled with him and gullible at the same time, I believe him. So we have become Friday buddies.
Back to my place, some more wine and lots of cuddles and kisses......
Next day: on the way back from walking my dog, I found a woman slouched over on the floor of the elevator. I rushed up back to my friend; he ran to the elevator and I called 911. The paramedics were there in no time and luckily the lady was breathing and moving around, but it was pretty scary, for sure. We don't know the outcome, but I'm sure she is in good care now.
I made breakfast, we read the papers (like two old married people) and watched a little t.v. and cuddled. He's returning next Friday for some of my Chicken Putanesca.
It was a glorious Friday night, Saturday morning. AM I DREAMING? If I am, please DON'T wake me up!
While waiting for the salmon to cook, we discussed lots of things and we reached an agreement that we will remain friends (with benefits) and we both think it's a good arrangement. He's actually tired of the dating scene (ahem) and being enthralled with him and gullible at the same time, I believe him. So we have become Friday buddies.
Back to my place, some more wine and lots of cuddles and kisses......
Next day: on the way back from walking my dog, I found a woman slouched over on the floor of the elevator. I rushed up back to my friend; he ran to the elevator and I called 911. The paramedics were there in no time and luckily the lady was breathing and moving around, but it was pretty scary, for sure. We don't know the outcome, but I'm sure she is in good care now.
I made breakfast, we read the papers (like two old married people) and watched a little t.v. and cuddled. He's returning next Friday for some of my Chicken Putanesca.
It was a glorious Friday night, Saturday morning. AM I DREAMING? If I am, please DON'T wake me up!
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
A Fish Tale
Grilled Salmon is on the menu at Mr. EX's (ok, his name is Tom) place on Friday night. Yummy!
As previously mentioned in my last blog, he had a friend (female, mind you) that caught (with some of her friends) 600 lbs. of salmon in Alaska. (It was frozen and shipped to her here in LA and since she probably liked Tom so much she gave him some, ahem.) Anyway, I will be eating the wonderful salmon on Friday night.
My contribution to his menu is a Bittersweet Chocolate Orange cake coming in at 175 calories a slice! (NOTE: If anyone wants the recipe, please let me know.) Along with the cake I will be bringing a wine, but not sure whether it should be a Pinot Noir (as suggested on some websites), an Italian Pino Grigio or a Californian Chardonnay. Any suggestions would be good.......
Naturally, once again, I am nervous, beforehand. But when I'm with him, I'm not. Weird huh? So we'll see how Friday night turns out. I promise to be good and not mention anything indicating "the future, a commitment or love"......but it's very hard. I will mention a possible day trip to a casino as I'm DYING to go to one. He was agreeable to it the last time, so we might have to get the calendar out.
Okay, so now we all know him as Tom. And as one of my knitting ladies said, "How's the hunk"? He's not a hunk, but he is in good form for a 70 year old man!
On another note, I got a very long e-mail from someone that I corresponded with earlier last week. (Needless to say, I thought he was here in SoCal, but yesterday I found out he lives in London!) Are these guys nuts or what!!!! He said if he found the right woman, he'd relocate since he was an American and longs to be back here. I don't think so!
This is utterly ridiculous and my way out of this one is that I'm going back to my ex (well that's partially true). Tom is good for a lot of things it seems.........
As previously mentioned in my last blog, he had a friend (female, mind you) that caught (with some of her friends) 600 lbs. of salmon in Alaska. (It was frozen and shipped to her here in LA and since she probably liked Tom so much she gave him some, ahem.) Anyway, I will be eating the wonderful salmon on Friday night.
My contribution to his menu is a Bittersweet Chocolate Orange cake coming in at 175 calories a slice! (NOTE: If anyone wants the recipe, please let me know.) Along with the cake I will be bringing a wine, but not sure whether it should be a Pinot Noir (as suggested on some websites), an Italian Pino Grigio or a Californian Chardonnay. Any suggestions would be good.......
Naturally, once again, I am nervous, beforehand. But when I'm with him, I'm not. Weird huh? So we'll see how Friday night turns out. I promise to be good and not mention anything indicating "the future, a commitment or love"......but it's very hard. I will mention a possible day trip to a casino as I'm DYING to go to one. He was agreeable to it the last time, so we might have to get the calendar out.
Okay, so now we all know him as Tom. And as one of my knitting ladies said, "How's the hunk"? He's not a hunk, but he is in good form for a 70 year old man!
On another note, I got a very long e-mail from someone that I corresponded with earlier last week. (Needless to say, I thought he was here in SoCal, but yesterday I found out he lives in London!) Are these guys nuts or what!!!! He said if he found the right woman, he'd relocate since he was an American and longs to be back here. I don't think so!
This is utterly ridiculous and my way out of this one is that I'm going back to my ex (well that's partially true). Tom is good for a lot of things it seems.........
Saturday, July 16, 2011
The Return of Mr. EX
My date with Mr. EX turned out extremely well. And it was just like fitting into an old shoe. We took up right where we left off talking about family, relationships, on-line dating, sports, movies, books, food, good wines and that unforbidden word SEX. Our dinner was delicious and to make it even better, he treated! What more can a gal ask for?
Now to the clarification of our relationship......friends or friends with benefits? Try the latter. Ahem......quite wonderful, sweetly romantic and very comfortable.
In terms of his 'others', well they didn't quite work out for him and he has no one 'waiting in the wings' currently. Interesting huh? Maybe his roving eyes have stopped roving? I don't think so, but he's still nice to be with and my night last night was 'over the moon'....and there just happened to be a full moon in the sky as well.
But it's not over. It seems a friend of his went fishing in Alaska and caught over 600 pounds of salmon, and guess who's barbequing (is that spelled right?) for me next week? Not 600 lbs. mind you! Yes we stopped in Williams Sonoma on the Mall and he bought some smoked wooden planks and invited me to dinner. Just like that!
So I guess good things do happen to those who wait. Now to buy a nice bottle of white wine and come up with a dessert. It will be interesting, yet fun, to see how my 'friends with benefits' scenario plays out in the next few weeks.
Now to the clarification of our relationship......friends or friends with benefits? Try the latter. Ahem......quite wonderful, sweetly romantic and very comfortable.
In terms of his 'others', well they didn't quite work out for him and he has no one 'waiting in the wings' currently. Interesting huh? Maybe his roving eyes have stopped roving? I don't think so, but he's still nice to be with and my night last night was 'over the moon'....and there just happened to be a full moon in the sky as well.
But it's not over. It seems a friend of his went fishing in Alaska and caught over 600 pounds of salmon, and guess who's barbequing (is that spelled right?) for me next week? Not 600 lbs. mind you! Yes we stopped in Williams Sonoma on the Mall and he bought some smoked wooden planks and invited me to dinner. Just like that!
So I guess good things do happen to those who wait. Now to buy a nice bottle of white wine and come up with a dessert. It will be interesting, yet fun, to see how my 'friends with benefits' scenario plays out in the next few weeks.
Monday, July 11, 2011
The 'UnThinkable"
Out of the blue, I received a 'wink' from Mr. EX on one of the dating sites. I winked back. He e-mailed back. (Note: he said he really didn't think I'd answer him.) It turns out we're having sushi dinner on Friday night. Ovey and Yikes: what did I get myself into now!
Can we just have dinner with no strings? Can we just be friends? He seemed friendly in the e-mail. But we all know how changeable, fickle and devious he can be.
So why am I constantly drawn to this guy? I think it's a combination of a lot of things: he was my first date after losing my husband, we dated for 6 weeks, I can't get this guy out of my head and the age old question: why do good girls fall for bad boys?
Well, it will be interesting to see how this will play out. With all the losers I've been getting messages from, this date will feel like a comfortable, old shoe. It will be like meeting an old girlfriend for dinner. I mean we did have things in common except he has roving eyes and I don't.
I know I'll be getting yelled at from some of you (and you know who you are) but hey, life is meant to be lived! Wish me luck!!!
Can we just have dinner with no strings? Can we just be friends? He seemed friendly in the e-mail. But we all know how changeable, fickle and devious he can be.
So why am I constantly drawn to this guy? I think it's a combination of a lot of things: he was my first date after losing my husband, we dated for 6 weeks, I can't get this guy out of my head and the age old question: why do good girls fall for bad boys?
Well, it will be interesting to see how this will play out. With all the losers I've been getting messages from, this date will feel like a comfortable, old shoe. It will be like meeting an old girlfriend for dinner. I mean we did have things in common except he has roving eyes and I don't.
I know I'll be getting yelled at from some of you (and you know who you are) but hey, life is meant to be lived! Wish me luck!!!
Monday, July 4, 2011
Is Anyone Normal Anymore?
HAPPY 4TH OF JULY!
Freedom. That's what our country is all about. That's what I feel this morning. Liberated!
I have finally severed ties with the last two 'losers' that were constantly sending me IM's and e-mails. The first one, Senor J, was annoying. He kept asking me if I was religious and if I went to church, etc. It's really none of his business. The second one was even worse. (I shall call him Mr. NoName.) He kept sending me morning and night e-mails (in poetry format) telling me he has met the 'love of his life'. Really now!
IS ANYONE NORMAL ANYMORE? Are these guys that pathetic? It's a good thing I don't take any of these guys too seriously. It's all just getting ANNOYING!
So in order to feel 'free' on this Independence Day, I e-mailed Senor J yesterday and told him a big fat lie....I have gone back with my ex. Ditto for Mr. NoName. Am I being mean? No, I don't think so. The problem is I'm being TOO NICE! When I get these e-mails from these 'un-normals', I should just hit the DELETE button! Remind me to do so.......PLEASE!
Stay safe everyone (and smart)!
Freedom. That's what our country is all about. That's what I feel this morning. Liberated!
I have finally severed ties with the last two 'losers' that were constantly sending me IM's and e-mails. The first one, Senor J, was annoying. He kept asking me if I was religious and if I went to church, etc. It's really none of his business. The second one was even worse. (I shall call him Mr. NoName.) He kept sending me morning and night e-mails (in poetry format) telling me he has met the 'love of his life'. Really now!
IS ANYONE NORMAL ANYMORE? Are these guys that pathetic? It's a good thing I don't take any of these guys too seriously. It's all just getting ANNOYING!
So in order to feel 'free' on this Independence Day, I e-mailed Senor J yesterday and told him a big fat lie....I have gone back with my ex. Ditto for Mr. NoName. Am I being mean? No, I don't think so. The problem is I'm being TOO NICE! When I get these e-mails from these 'un-normals', I should just hit the DELETE button! Remind me to do so.......PLEASE!
Stay safe everyone (and smart)!
Thursday, June 30, 2011
IM's and Resuscitation
I bet you are all wondering how the title of the above came to be........
Yesterday I was inundated with IM's from a new person whom we shall call Senor J. (Pretend that there's a 'tilda' over the N.) He was very 'chatty' and seemed very nice. He sent me long e-mails throughout the day pouring out his heart and soul. He's about an hour away, 60 years old and retired. He asked to meet me on-line today for more IM's, but so far he's been MIA. Well, we'll see where this one goes.......
In the meantime, I awoke to an apologetic e-mail message from Mr. M&M. It seems he had some very bad financial problems as his accountant made some major errors on his tax return and it was not good news for him.. Apparently Mr. M&M got into a 'blue funk' and as he said, withdrew into himself and did not want to talk to anyone. He said he would call me the end of next week. Being the compassionate person that I am, I wrote him back and said I understood, hope he'd have a good 4th of July weekend and looked forward to his call next week. (I can't call him since I deleted his number from my phone and all subsequent correspondence which is probably a good thing since I'll see if he really DOES call.)
Should I give the M&M man another chance? Let's see if he's true to his word and DOES call back next week. As far as Senor J, he sounds a little flaky to me. He didn't even know what Face Book was, kept asking me the same questions over and over again and from the way that his e-mails read, he sounds a little illiterate to me. Hmmmm......am I being too harsh?
Next installment coming soon.........
Yesterday I was inundated with IM's from a new person whom we shall call Senor J. (Pretend that there's a 'tilda' over the N.) He was very 'chatty' and seemed very nice. He sent me long e-mails throughout the day pouring out his heart and soul. He's about an hour away, 60 years old and retired. He asked to meet me on-line today for more IM's, but so far he's been MIA. Well, we'll see where this one goes.......
In the meantime, I awoke to an apologetic e-mail message from Mr. M&M. It seems he had some very bad financial problems as his accountant made some major errors on his tax return and it was not good news for him.. Apparently Mr. M&M got into a 'blue funk' and as he said, withdrew into himself and did not want to talk to anyone. He said he would call me the end of next week. Being the compassionate person that I am, I wrote him back and said I understood, hope he'd have a good 4th of July weekend and looked forward to his call next week. (I can't call him since I deleted his number from my phone and all subsequent correspondence which is probably a good thing since I'll see if he really DOES call.)
Should I give the M&M man another chance? Let's see if he's true to his word and DOES call back next week. As far as Senor J, he sounds a little flaky to me. He didn't even know what Face Book was, kept asking me the same questions over and over again and from the way that his e-mails read, he sounds a little illiterate to me. Hmmmm......am I being too harsh?
Next installment coming soon.........
Wednesday, June 29, 2011
One Can of Anchovies and a Dozen PB Cookies
ARE YOU KIDDING ME! Are all men SNAKES IN THE GRASS!
Mr. M&M has turned into yesterday's stale chocolate pieces!! I e-mailed him last night to see if he was still coming over for dinner on Friday night, but no response. I guess that's another 'loser' I can write about. But wait.....it gets better!
A very dear friend of mine just happened to get an e-mail from him the very night that he 'supposedly' had to go to 'work'! OMG! Here is another snake in the grass! My friend and I actually laughed about it. I'm glad I've got her as my 'spy'! Do these men actually feel like they have to see what's else is out there? Is the grass greener on the other side? Does this happen to be the way the 21st century man acts? Are there any 'real' men out there, or are they all wolves in sheep's clothing? At least when I got married, I married a gem!
Questions, questions, questions. Well, at least I only bought a can of anchovies for the Chicken Putanesca I was going to make. However, there ARE peanut butter cookies in the freezer that I had baked for him. Too bad......his loss all the way around!
Mr. M&M has turned into yesterday's stale chocolate pieces!! I e-mailed him last night to see if he was still coming over for dinner on Friday night, but no response. I guess that's another 'loser' I can write about. But wait.....it gets better!
A very dear friend of mine just happened to get an e-mail from him the very night that he 'supposedly' had to go to 'work'! OMG! Here is another snake in the grass! My friend and I actually laughed about it. I'm glad I've got her as my 'spy'! Do these men actually feel like they have to see what's else is out there? Is the grass greener on the other side? Does this happen to be the way the 21st century man acts? Are there any 'real' men out there, or are they all wolves in sheep's clothing? At least when I got married, I married a gem!
Questions, questions, questions. Well, at least I only bought a can of anchovies for the Chicken Putanesca I was going to make. However, there ARE peanut butter cookies in the freezer that I had baked for him. Too bad......his loss all the way around!
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Feast or Famine
It seems I either get lots of phone calls, IM's and e-mails from someone, OR nothing at all. (See an older post dated April 20th.) Mr. M&M texted me yesterday, I texted back. I said to him to call me last night. He never did. I sometimes feel like a teenager waiting around for someone to call me. Can I slap myself in the face now to WAKE UP and SMELL THE COFFEE!
I realize people do have things in their lives and get busy etc., but I am a woman who keeps my word and when I say I'm going to call, e-mail, text or write someone, I do it! But, of course, I'm not a MAN! They do things that we women can and never will understand.
Interesting note: the other day I was on the website that Mr. M&M 'found' me on and apparently it monitors when you're last on it. I looked Mr. M&M up and he was on it just a few hours before I was. Is he 'cruising' again? I believe that he's not looking for a serious relationship. Are all of these 'losers/cruisers' the same way?
Feeling very disillusioned today.
I realize people do have things in their lives and get busy etc., but I am a woman who keeps my word and when I say I'm going to call, e-mail, text or write someone, I do it! But, of course, I'm not a MAN! They do things that we women can and never will understand.
Interesting note: the other day I was on the website that Mr. M&M 'found' me on and apparently it monitors when you're last on it. I looked Mr. M&M up and he was on it just a few hours before I was. Is he 'cruising' again? I believe that he's not looking for a serious relationship. Are all of these 'losers/cruisers' the same way?
Feeling very disillusioned today.
Friday, June 24, 2011
Back in the Saddle Again
I'm back from a trip up north. It was hot, hot, hot! Glad it's over though. Staying at someone's house can be a little daunting at times....... You can fill in the blanks.
Perhaps I should have started this blog with the third date with Mr. M&M. For those inquiring minds, it was very successful, sort of. Unfortunately, it all ended rather abruptly. After a really juicy hamburger at a local pub, I invited him back to my apartment for some home-made peanut butter cookies, some wine and a movie. However, with no wine, no cookies and only 1/4 of the movie watched, he had to say good-bye. He owns his own contracting/electrical company and there was a major problem at one of his clients: Panera Bread to be exact. It seems their wires fried and they could not bake the bread they're so famous for. So after a few hasty kisses good-by, off he went to work. I guess the evening was a success, for the short time it was. At least he's a good kisser!
Anyway, we'll see what happens next. I've invited him for dinner at my home next week. Hope he doesn't have to run off then. Of course my typical suspicious mind says, 'hmmmm.....was that call from another woman?' Don't think so since he told me he hasn't had a date in 3 years. But who knows.........we all know that "Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars"!!!!
Perhaps I should have started this blog with the third date with Mr. M&M. For those inquiring minds, it was very successful, sort of. Unfortunately, it all ended rather abruptly. After a really juicy hamburger at a local pub, I invited him back to my apartment for some home-made peanut butter cookies, some wine and a movie. However, with no wine, no cookies and only 1/4 of the movie watched, he had to say good-bye. He owns his own contracting/electrical company and there was a major problem at one of his clients: Panera Bread to be exact. It seems their wires fried and they could not bake the bread they're so famous for. So after a few hasty kisses good-by, off he went to work. I guess the evening was a success, for the short time it was. At least he's a good kisser!
Anyway, we'll see what happens next. I've invited him for dinner at my home next week. Hope he doesn't have to run off then. Of course my typical suspicious mind says, 'hmmmm.....was that call from another woman?' Don't think so since he told me he hasn't had a date in 3 years. But who knows.........we all know that "Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars"!!!!
Thursday, June 16, 2011
It's In His Kiss!
"It's In His Kiss" made a hit back in 1964 by Betty Everette. It was then revived by Diana Ross, Aretha Franklin and yet again by Cher many years later. In the 1960's, it was known as the Shoop Shoop song (great back-up singers then). Those of us 'oldsters' probably remember all the versions.
Well, it turns out that Mr. M&M man IS a good kisser! We had a lovely, fulfilling dinner at the Macaroni Grill, took a walk in the park, chatted in the car and a few kisses later, said good night. Once again, he treated. A perfect date! He is a simple, honest, generous and caring man. He does seem lonely as he hasn't had a relationship in two years.
He likes musicals (thank goodness) and his favorite is "South Pacific". I took my lead from that and invited him for dinner in a few weeks with a viewing of "South Pacific" (thank goodness for my DVR). He likes all kinds of foods (he does have a stomach, but so what) and I've got to come up with something gratifying, yummy and not too fattening. NOTE: Any suggestions would be appreciated here.
So as the saying goes, "One Day at a Time"...........
Well, it turns out that Mr. M&M man IS a good kisser! We had a lovely, fulfilling dinner at the Macaroni Grill, took a walk in the park, chatted in the car and a few kisses later, said good night. Once again, he treated. A perfect date! He is a simple, honest, generous and caring man. He does seem lonely as he hasn't had a relationship in two years.
He likes musicals (thank goodness) and his favorite is "South Pacific". I took my lead from that and invited him for dinner in a few weeks with a viewing of "South Pacific" (thank goodness for my DVR). He likes all kinds of foods (he does have a stomach, but so what) and I've got to come up with something gratifying, yummy and not too fattening. NOTE: Any suggestions would be appreciated here.
So as the saying goes, "One Day at a Time"...........
Monday, June 13, 2011
Telephone Tag
I was in the mountains yesterday with my daughter and her family. We went to an art show and met some of her friends. Communication on my cell phone was non-existent so when we finally settled back down to flat land and got home, I read the following message on my phone: "You have 1 missed call." Well, lo and behold Mr. M&M called me.
I called him back right away, but his voice mail was on, so I left a message. A few margueritas later at my daughter's, washed down with lots of water and some chicken kabobs, I drove home. Getting ready to watch the Tony Awards, I noticed the same message on my phone again, "You have 1 missed call." Are you kidding me? My cell phone was sitting on the couch right next to me! What gives! Mr. M&M man called me back! It turns out my cell phone was on vibrate and I couldn't hear it. Grrrrrrrr...........
After putting the Tony's on hold (thank God for the DVR), I called him back. What a sweetie! He said he was thinking about me and wanted to know when we could meet again. Nice! I also mentioned that I'd be going away this Saturday for five days and he said he would miss me. Another Nice!
So we talked for a few minutes, then decided to meet for dinner one night this week. (This time Italian.) Although I said I wanted to treat, he said no way. I mean he can't keep treating me for dinner. (Is my suspicious mind working overtime now and what 'payment' will I have to give for two dinners?)
He'll call today and we'll set it up. At least he follows through.
Ahhhh....Italian food! Something to look forward to. A quote from my much loved deceased Dad: "I'd rather clothe you then feed you!"
Ciao!
I called him back right away, but his voice mail was on, so I left a message. A few margueritas later at my daughter's, washed down with lots of water and some chicken kabobs, I drove home. Getting ready to watch the Tony Awards, I noticed the same message on my phone again, "You have 1 missed call." Are you kidding me? My cell phone was sitting on the couch right next to me! What gives! Mr. M&M man called me back! It turns out my cell phone was on vibrate and I couldn't hear it. Grrrrrrrr...........
After putting the Tony's on hold (thank God for the DVR), I called him back. What a sweetie! He said he was thinking about me and wanted to know when we could meet again. Nice! I also mentioned that I'd be going away this Saturday for five days and he said he would miss me. Another Nice!
So we talked for a few minutes, then decided to meet for dinner one night this week. (This time Italian.) Although I said I wanted to treat, he said no way. I mean he can't keep treating me for dinner. (Is my suspicious mind working overtime now and what 'payment' will I have to give for two dinners?)
He'll call today and we'll set it up. At least he follows through.
Ahhhh....Italian food! Something to look forward to. A quote from my much loved deceased Dad: "I'd rather clothe you then feed you!"
Ciao!
Saturday, June 11, 2011
M&M Cookie Mystery Man - SOLVED!
We finally met! After an exhausting day with my grandchildren in the park and no news about dinner with Mr. M&M, I decided to get myself some Pad Thai and hunker down with a good movie. At 5:45 my phone rings and it's him. He wants to meet for dinner. (I just happened to be shopping in my favorite craft store and I went into 'rush' mode and drove home to get ready.)
We met at 7:30. He was carrying one of those clickers from the restaurant. As it turned out, there was a 40 minute wait and we weren't willing to. So we looked at the 'wonderful' restaurant next door, and went there. Wokano is a wonderful restaurant whereby the food is an infusion of sushi, thai, chinese, indian, italian and what have you. Fantastic choices! It also seemed he liked sushi......ahhhh, finally a man who actually likes sushi! Since he knew what he was doing, I let him take the reins and order......and boy did he order! Two appetizers, 4 rolls and one entree later, we were stuffed, but we didn't finish it all. Guess who got to take it home? The bill came. He grabbed it. I offered to pay half. He said no way. A man from the old school. Nice. He was a sweetheart, a little overweight, but who cares. We're all overweight when we reach old age aren't we?
NOTE: I did remind him that we spoke in December and mentioned that his phone number was hastily written on the M&M Cookie Recipe. He laughed but vaguely remembered us talking. That's fine. No harm done.
My M&M Cookie recipe will never be the same again...........let's see what happens next!
We met at 7:30. He was carrying one of those clickers from the restaurant. As it turned out, there was a 40 minute wait and we weren't willing to. So we looked at the 'wonderful' restaurant next door, and went there. Wokano is a wonderful restaurant whereby the food is an infusion of sushi, thai, chinese, indian, italian and what have you. Fantastic choices! It also seemed he liked sushi......ahhhh, finally a man who actually likes sushi! Since he knew what he was doing, I let him take the reins and order......and boy did he order! Two appetizers, 4 rolls and one entree later, we were stuffed, but we didn't finish it all. Guess who got to take it home? The bill came. He grabbed it. I offered to pay half. He said no way. A man from the old school. Nice. He was a sweetheart, a little overweight, but who cares. We're all overweight when we reach old age aren't we?
NOTE: I did remind him that we spoke in December and mentioned that his phone number was hastily written on the M&M Cookie Recipe. He laughed but vaguely remembered us talking. That's fine. No harm done.
My M&M Cookie recipe will never be the same again...........let's see what happens next!
Monday, June 6, 2011
The M&M Cookie Recipe Caper
It is confirmed. I am meeting the man from the M&M Cookie recipe tomorrow. We are having lunch. We spoke briefly last night to set up lunch for tomorrow. He still is clueless as to who I am. I believe that this is how it went last December (while I was baking cookies):
1. He e-mailed me;
2. I responded and provided my phone #;
3. He called;
4. We spoke;
5. I called him the next day (while I was baking the cookies);
6. He said he'd call me again;
7. He never called back.
I hope the same scenario does not play out with him. Although I've still not met him yet, I feel good about this one. To quote my friend Paula, "I feel guarded optimism". As far as Mr. Teddy Bear goes (lunch 2 weeks ago), he never called. What is it with these guys? Did I look funny to him, too fat, too skinny?; I wore my deodorant that day.....
Well, onward and upward and I will post after the M&M Cookie Man Lunch Date........stay tuned.
1. He e-mailed me;
2. I responded and provided my phone #;
3. He called;
4. We spoke;
5. I called him the next day (while I was baking the cookies);
6. He said he'd call me again;
7. He never called back.
I hope the same scenario does not play out with him. Although I've still not met him yet, I feel good about this one. To quote my friend Paula, "I feel guarded optimism". As far as Mr. Teddy Bear goes (lunch 2 weeks ago), he never called. What is it with these guys? Did I look funny to him, too fat, too skinny?; I wore my deodorant that day.....
Well, onward and upward and I will post after the M&M Cookie Man Lunch Date........stay tuned.
Thursday, June 2, 2011
A Voice from the Past
On one of the e-dating sites (free) I received a message from someone who looked and sounded very intriguing. So I wrote a quick note back. He wrote back and I gave him my cell #. Last night he called and sounded very, very nice but very, very familiar.
Apparently, (after remembering his name as well) I put the pieces together and asked him what he did for a living. He has his own contracting business and then it clicked in my brain: I spoke to this man about 6 months ago. We originally spoke on the phone (twice to be exact) and that was it. However, we lost touch with one another. I mentioned this to him but he didn't remember. Then he gave me his # and I said I'd call him Sunday night.
But my curiosity got the best of me and I remembered that the last time I talked to him I was baking Christmas cookies and jotted his number down on the recipe I was using at the time. So I got out my trusty recipe book and checked and written on the recipe for M&M Cookies, was his number! The same # he gave me last night. Was it woman's intuition, coincidence or fate?
Who knows, but he did sound sweet.
Apparently, (after remembering his name as well) I put the pieces together and asked him what he did for a living. He has his own contracting business and then it clicked in my brain: I spoke to this man about 6 months ago. We originally spoke on the phone (twice to be exact) and that was it. However, we lost touch with one another. I mentioned this to him but he didn't remember. Then he gave me his # and I said I'd call him Sunday night.
But my curiosity got the best of me and I remembered that the last time I talked to him I was baking Christmas cookies and jotted his number down on the recipe I was using at the time. So I got out my trusty recipe book and checked and written on the recipe for M&M Cookies, was his number! The same # he gave me last night. Was it woman's intuition, coincidence or fate?
Who knows, but he did sound sweet.
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
ARE YOU KIDDING ME?
Mr. NOW is officially called Mr. SNAKE!
All good intentions from yesterday's post was to have another sushi date next week. However, a writhing e-mail from Mr. Snake appeared in my in-box late yesterday and I was livid!
It seems he no longer wants to be "Friends with Benefits" but just friends because, and are you all ready for this, he met up with a friend and they are an 'item' again. ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Is he serious? But yet he still wants to meet me for sushi! ARE YOU KIDDING ME? I'm tired of being his doormat!
I've decided I can no longer be 'friends' with this snake in the grass. OVER and DONE! I'm tired of him giving me mixed signals and tired of his pretending. He's jerked me around for the LAST TIME!
I know I've used a lot of CAPS in this post but that's EXACTLY how I feel. I have not answered his e-mail yet as I'm going to let him stew for a while wondering why I didn't respond. I'm sure I'll get another e-mail from him as the time gets closer to his suggested meeting date, next Thurs. or Friday. I'll answer that e-mail then and state exactly what I stated above with a closing of have a nice life and I hope you find Miss Perfect!
Talk about a snake in the grass, a wolf in sheep's clothing; need I say more.
All good intentions from yesterday's post was to have another sushi date next week. However, a writhing e-mail from Mr. Snake appeared in my in-box late yesterday and I was livid!
It seems he no longer wants to be "Friends with Benefits" but just friends because, and are you all ready for this, he met up with a friend and they are an 'item' again. ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Is he serious? But yet he still wants to meet me for sushi! ARE YOU KIDDING ME? I'm tired of being his doormat!
I've decided I can no longer be 'friends' with this snake in the grass. OVER and DONE! I'm tired of him giving me mixed signals and tired of his pretending. He's jerked me around for the LAST TIME!
I know I've used a lot of CAPS in this post but that's EXACTLY how I feel. I have not answered his e-mail yet as I'm going to let him stew for a while wondering why I didn't respond. I'm sure I'll get another e-mail from him as the time gets closer to his suggested meeting date, next Thurs. or Friday. I'll answer that e-mail then and state exactly what I stated above with a closing of have a nice life and I hope you find Miss Perfect!
Talk about a snake in the grass, a wolf in sheep's clothing; need I say more.
Tuesday, May 31, 2011
Some Thoughts
Why do I get all butterflies in my stomach each time I think of Mr. EX? (Maybe I should start calling him Mr. NOW?) Is all of this dating, searching, blogging a big waste of time? Are things not what they seem? Is it all a big waste of time? Do things happen when you least expect them to?
Questions, questions, questions. Anyway, we have a 'tentative' meeting for sushi dinner sometime next week. I just shot him an e-mail to find out when. We'll see if he bites or doesn't. So was last Friday night all a big dream? It was a good night and another experience to put in my memory bank.
However, it was a difficult weekend for me because it was the first anniversary of my husband's passing. I managed to get through keeping busy, but when I see/hear certain movies/songs, I cry. No matter who I date and who I see, I'll never forget the man that made me who I am today. I was his Eliza Doolittle to his Professor Higgins. I was blessed to have him in my life and will never forget him.
In the meantime, Mr. NOW and I continue our on again/off again path down the road to some sort of a relationship........whether it be friends, boyfriend/girlfriend or friends with benefits. Anyway, it will be an adventure to store in my RAM.
Questions, questions, questions. Anyway, we have a 'tentative' meeting for sushi dinner sometime next week. I just shot him an e-mail to find out when. We'll see if he bites or doesn't. So was last Friday night all a big dream? It was a good night and another experience to put in my memory bank.
However, it was a difficult weekend for me because it was the first anniversary of my husband's passing. I managed to get through keeping busy, but when I see/hear certain movies/songs, I cry. No matter who I date and who I see, I'll never forget the man that made me who I am today. I was his Eliza Doolittle to his Professor Higgins. I was blessed to have him in my life and will never forget him.
In the meantime, Mr. NOW and I continue our on again/off again path down the road to some sort of a relationship........whether it be friends, boyfriend/girlfriend or friends with benefits. Anyway, it will be an adventure to store in my RAM.
Saturday, May 28, 2011
Friends with Benefits??
As mentioned in a previous blog, Mr. EX and I had dinner last night and it turned out to be very, very nice. He paid too. Apparently with his treat for dinner, he thought he would get 'paid back' with a hop in the sack. No siree baby was my answer. I do have principles and I told him that flat out. He understood. We went to one of the local pubs for a nightcap, then I drove home ALONE!
I am so proud of myself that I did not succumb to his invitation to bed. Although.....he seems different: Quieter, pensive, humble. He did say he was so sorry that he caused me so much pain when he 'dumped' me back in January. We do plan to 'date' again as this is what he called what was last night's meeting. News to me. I thought it was just dinner with a friend. Another phrase that came up (which I'm not sure I can quite put my arms around) FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS. I know what it means but am not sure if it's the right thing for me. Here are some thoughts rolling around in my head.
1. For some reason I can't get this guy out of my mind;
2. Friends with Benefits might not be too bad simply because I really don't know if I want to make a
commitment with someone now or ever for that matter;
3. I had the only true love of my life;
4. I like sleeping alone.
All of these make a good argument to favor Friends with Benefits. However, if I'm taking that risk, how many "inkwells" would Mr. EX have dipped his nib in? Hmmmmm.........
Anyway, we e-mailed this morning. Planning another sushi dinner next month. (I feel like I'm in a book club but this is a sushi club.) We also talked about going for a drive to a casino in July. Interesting stuff, but still uneasy and unsure. I have to go into this situation with my eyes WIDE OPEN!
I am so proud of myself that I did not succumb to his invitation to bed. Although.....he seems different: Quieter, pensive, humble. He did say he was so sorry that he caused me so much pain when he 'dumped' me back in January. We do plan to 'date' again as this is what he called what was last night's meeting. News to me. I thought it was just dinner with a friend. Another phrase that came up (which I'm not sure I can quite put my arms around) FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS. I know what it means but am not sure if it's the right thing for me. Here are some thoughts rolling around in my head.
1. For some reason I can't get this guy out of my mind;
2. Friends with Benefits might not be too bad simply because I really don't know if I want to make a
commitment with someone now or ever for that matter;
3. I had the only true love of my life;
4. I like sleeping alone.
All of these make a good argument to favor Friends with Benefits. However, if I'm taking that risk, how many "inkwells" would Mr. EX have dipped his nib in? Hmmmmm.........
Anyway, we e-mailed this morning. Planning another sushi dinner next month. (I feel like I'm in a book club but this is a sushi club.) We also talked about going for a drive to a casino in July. Interesting stuff, but still uneasy and unsure. I have to go into this situation with my eyes WIDE OPEN!
Monday, May 23, 2011
The Return of Mr. EX
The other night in my inbox I found an e-mail from Mr. EX. Yes, he wants to have sushi again. That's fine. Although why am I always asking myself, "maybe he'll want to 'settle down' now". AM I NUTS!!! This man is fine for a friend but anything more is TROUBLE with a capital "T". Ya think? So it turns out he's away all week at a golf tournament but we've scheduled sushi dinner for Friday evening. You can bet I'll be in the bathroom most of the day. Why does this man make me crazy? Is it because good girls always fall for bad boys?
On another front, the nice man I met last week continues to be nice and not overbearing, thank God! We spoke twice since we had lunch and a new meeting has been arranged for 5/31. We talk about food and our grandkids and that's a good thing. Do I find that we have 'chemistry' (with a capital "C"), not yet but that's fine. One step at a time.......
In the meantime, headed for a busy week but Friday's sushi meeting is lurking in the background. I wonder if I should ask if he wants to go for a nightcap at the local pub? At any rate, I should be wearing a large "C" on my chest: "C" for CRAZY!!!!!!!
On another front, the nice man I met last week continues to be nice and not overbearing, thank God! We spoke twice since we had lunch and a new meeting has been arranged for 5/31. We talk about food and our grandkids and that's a good thing. Do I find that we have 'chemistry' (with a capital "C"), not yet but that's fine. One step at a time.......
In the meantime, headed for a busy week but Friday's sushi meeting is lurking in the background. I wonder if I should ask if he wants to go for a nightcap at the local pub? At any rate, I should be wearing a large "C" on my chest: "C" for CRAZY!!!!!!!
Friday, May 20, 2011
Brief Encounter
This new man turned out to be a real sweetheart. His wife passed away 10 years ago and he raised all 4 of his children by himself. He is very down to earth, very gregarious and sociable. (Doesn't those two words have the same meaning?) Anyway, we had a very nice lunch together and he even treated! Afterward, we took a walk around the mall and went into Williams Sonoma. It turns out he likes to cook and even makes home-made ravioli! I might have to consider keeping this one! It really felt as if I knew him a long time.
He telephoned me last night and we chatted for about 20 minutes. I will call him on Sunday evening. The questions is: what else is there to do the next time we meet? I guess we could always go to lunch or dinner but I don't want him to think he's supposed to treat again. Those are the usual dates and there's always the movies. However, if you want to get to know someone, the movies is not a good idea. Perhaps we could go shopping at Costco? He lives a 1/2 a mile away.
Well, one step at a time I guess.
He telephoned me last night and we chatted for about 20 minutes. I will call him on Sunday evening. The questions is: what else is there to do the next time we meet? I guess we could always go to lunch or dinner but I don't want him to think he's supposed to treat again. Those are the usual dates and there's always the movies. However, if you want to get to know someone, the movies is not a good idea. Perhaps we could go shopping at Costco? He lives a 1/2 a mile away.
Well, one step at a time I guess.
Thursday, May 19, 2011
First Meeting
Why is it right before I meet someone new, I spend the whole morning in the bathroom? I mean it's only a 'first meeting'. However, I suppose it is very scary meeting someone new....sort of like a job interview, or a road test or any of the difficult, awkward scenarios we experience in our life.
I go through the motions of getting ready (body lotion, matching perfume, extra make-up, fix hair), but let's face it: you are who are inside as well as outside, and if it doesn't 'click' it just doesn't click. To paraphrase a recent book/movie, "He's Just Not That IntoYou"; it's true. If the chemistry is not there, it's just not there.
Such a big word: CHEMISTRY. According to the definition of 'chemistry' in Wikipedia, it is: the scientific study of interaction. Interaction: I guess that's what it's all about...the interaction of one person with another person. The conversation, the same interests, the same values, the same age range, the same frame of mind, etc. However, isn't it like this with every person we meet in our lifetime? That's what makes humans so special and different from animals. It's all about interaction.
Well, 'wagons ho' and got to get ready for the 'first meeting'. Until tomorrow........
I go through the motions of getting ready (body lotion, matching perfume, extra make-up, fix hair), but let's face it: you are who are inside as well as outside, and if it doesn't 'click' it just doesn't click. To paraphrase a recent book/movie, "He's Just Not That IntoYou"; it's true. If the chemistry is not there, it's just not there.
Such a big word: CHEMISTRY. According to the definition of 'chemistry' in Wikipedia, it is: the scientific study of interaction. Interaction: I guess that's what it's all about...the interaction of one person with another person. The conversation, the same interests, the same values, the same age range, the same frame of mind, etc. However, isn't it like this with every person we meet in our lifetime? That's what makes humans so special and different from animals. It's all about interaction.
Well, 'wagons ho' and got to get ready for the 'first meeting'. Until tomorrow........
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
The Last Time?
Lunch with a "newbie" on Thursday.
I spoke to him 3x on the phone. Sounds nice and interesting, but we'll see. Looks a little like a teddy bear. We're supposed to have lunch on Thursday. But if the 'chemistry' is not there, it's just not there. We'll see.
Getting back to the title of this blog, however. If this lunch meeting doesn't work out on Thursday, this is the last time I will be 'cyber dating' for a while. I've since made a step in the right direction since I have dropped my membership in Match.com. It was just too, too expensive. The other sites are ok (since they are free) and I'll 'pop' in and out of them from time to time.
I hope you don't mind my complaining. But this whole dating process is just annoying. It was not nearly as complicated when I was 17 years old, that's for sure! Picking someone out, winking, sending an e-mail, hoping you'll get an answer back, waiting for a phone call. Three words come to my mind: WHO NEEDS IT! Am I getting old and crochity(sp<?).....probably. But I've got enough things in my life right now to keep me busy and happy.
Stay tuned for another post......after Thursday!
I spoke to him 3x on the phone. Sounds nice and interesting, but we'll see. Looks a little like a teddy bear. We're supposed to have lunch on Thursday. But if the 'chemistry' is not there, it's just not there. We'll see.
Getting back to the title of this blog, however. If this lunch meeting doesn't work out on Thursday, this is the last time I will be 'cyber dating' for a while. I've since made a step in the right direction since I have dropped my membership in Match.com. It was just too, too expensive. The other sites are ok (since they are free) and I'll 'pop' in and out of them from time to time.
I hope you don't mind my complaining. But this whole dating process is just annoying. It was not nearly as complicated when I was 17 years old, that's for sure! Picking someone out, winking, sending an e-mail, hoping you'll get an answer back, waiting for a phone call. Three words come to my mind: WHO NEEDS IT! Am I getting old and crochity(sp<?).....probably. But I've got enough things in my life right now to keep me busy and happy.
Stay tuned for another post......after Thursday!
Monday, May 9, 2011
Location, Location, Location
I wrote to someone on Match.com on Saturday morning and got an answer in a few hours. He lives in Beverly Hills, which I don't think is too far away. Anyway, his answer was bizarre. He told me that he doesn't drive on the freeways and walks to work. He said it would be 'prohibitive' of him to meet me because he never takes the freeways. HELLO!!!! Is this guy kidding me? Is he living in the 21st century or what? Why did he even bother putting himself on a dating website at all? The website lets you put on how many miles you'd want to meet someone from your own home. I don't recall what he posted about that, but I should re-read it because it must have said 2 miles!!!
I can see if he was very old and did not feel secure in driving, but he was only in his mid 60's! Seriously.
So bottom line: you certainly meet some lulu's on these websites.....good, bad, ugly, handsome and WEIRD!
I can see if he was very old and did not feel secure in driving, but he was only in his mid 60's! Seriously.
So bottom line: you certainly meet some lulu's on these websites.....good, bad, ugly, handsome and WEIRD!
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
Freebies
For those of you who asked, here are some FREE dating websites: Plentyoffish.com, Okcupid.com and here's one I just joined today, Zoosk.com. However, here's a tip: after looking it over (after I joined) it looks like it's NOT free after all. It's $12.49 a month for the least expensive membership. I DO have to say it is cheaper than Match.com though.
Basically they are all the same. Looking at hundreds and hundreds of faces and hundreds and hundreds of descriptions. It can get very time consuming and mindless and makes you ask the question: "Why am I doing this"?
Well, we'll see what Zoosk.com brings forth. Stay tuned for the next episode in the land of Cyberspace!
Basically they are all the same. Looking at hundreds and hundreds of faces and hundreds and hundreds of descriptions. It can get very time consuming and mindless and makes you ask the question: "Why am I doing this"?
Well, we'll see what Zoosk.com brings forth. Stay tuned for the next episode in the land of Cyberspace!
Tuesday, May 3, 2011
The Waiting Game
I know I haven't blogged in a while. Shame on me. This is a new month and I have decided to quit Match.com. I'm tired of waiting around to see if someone is going to call or e-mail. I'm not 16 years old anymore and have to wait for a man to make me happy. I am my own person and have my own identity and don't need a man to make things more complicated. In addition to quitting Match.com because of the above reasons, I will be also saving money every month!
Getting back to the 'waiting game': 'some', or should I say 'most' men are just flaky. For instance, this 'new kid on the block' said he was going to call on Sunday night....but he didn't. I'm DONE!
However, on another note, I do still belong to two other dating sites (both free I might add), so my blog will continue on......at least I won't be paying for it anymore more though!
More tomorrow or sometime soon..........
Getting back to the 'waiting game': 'some', or should I say 'most' men are just flaky. For instance, this 'new kid on the block' said he was going to call on Sunday night....but he didn't. I'm DONE!
However, on another note, I do still belong to two other dating sites (both free I might add), so my blog will continue on......at least I won't be paying for it anymore more though!
More tomorrow or sometime soon..........
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
A New Man in Town
Literally. He lives in the same town as I do! How convenient is that! He called me last night. I had been in touch with him about two weeks ago. We chatted for about 1/2 hour and it was finally nice to have someone to have an intelligent conversation with. He knows a lot about theater which intrigued me from the beginning. He knows how to convert VHS tapes to DVD's too. That's another plus!
After all of the phone calls that I've had over these last few months, it was actually nice that there were no 'pregnant pauses' in the conversation. I mean never having met a person and just getting over the initial introductions, what else is there to talk about? We had plenty to say......
Coming from a theater background from my husband and daughter, I'm up on movies (old and new), movie quotes and general movie trivia. So is he.
Next step.......we're supposed to have lunch next week. Since he lives in the same town and nearby, it shouldn't be much of a problem. We'll see.........
After all of the phone calls that I've had over these last few months, it was actually nice that there were no 'pregnant pauses' in the conversation. I mean never having met a person and just getting over the initial introductions, what else is there to talk about? We had plenty to say......
Coming from a theater background from my husband and daughter, I'm up on movies (old and new), movie quotes and general movie trivia. So is he.
Next step.......we're supposed to have lunch next week. Since he lives in the same town and nearby, it shouldn't be much of a problem. We'll see.........
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
A Face in the Crowd
Faces. So many faces. No names, but lots of faces. Scrolling through these 'nameless faces' is daunting. There's hundreds. Pick me, choose me, I'm the one for you! It's like trying to buy a new car!
This whole dating on-line process can be annoying. Who do you pick? How do you know he's a good person and not a serial killer? What do you share in common and will it work?
I feel like I'm at the supermarket choosing a slab of steak in the meat counter. Which one? There are so many choices and decisions in life. Should I e-mail or wink? And what does he think when he's doing his 'search'? Hmmmm......one can only imagine.
Last week when I had sushi with Mr. EX, he said 'his' current 'flame' was a pain in the _ _ _! I said to him "you know you'll never be happy". He reply was that he was looking for the 'perfect' woman! Seriously!!!!
I told him the 'perfect' woman did not exist nor did the 'perfect' man. He's a grown up man and not 6 years old! Come on!
So the question is: is this what all men think? I'm sorry but WAKE UP! This is not Fantasy Land or Candy Land or the Land of Oz. It's the real world fellows!
At this rate, it's really amazing how anyone meets anyone!!
This whole dating on-line process can be annoying. Who do you pick? How do you know he's a good person and not a serial killer? What do you share in common and will it work?
I feel like I'm at the supermarket choosing a slab of steak in the meat counter. Which one? There are so many choices and decisions in life. Should I e-mail or wink? And what does he think when he's doing his 'search'? Hmmmm......one can only imagine.
Last week when I had sushi with Mr. EX, he said 'his' current 'flame' was a pain in the _ _ _! I said to him "you know you'll never be happy". He reply was that he was looking for the 'perfect' woman! Seriously!!!!
I told him the 'perfect' woman did not exist nor did the 'perfect' man. He's a grown up man and not 6 years old! Come on!
So the question is: is this what all men think? I'm sorry but WAKE UP! This is not Fantasy Land or Candy Land or the Land of Oz. It's the real world fellows!
At this rate, it's really amazing how anyone meets anyone!!
Thursday, April 21, 2011
Hugs All Around
It looks like all of my worrying was for nothing. Dinner with Mr. "EX" turned out to be very, very nice with no hitches or glitches. We ate at the sushi bar and talked alot. It was very pleasant and it was all I wanted it to be. No complications. It was just like two girlfriends having dinner together. Funny thing happened though: while we were finishing up, in walked his wife and his two kids! Holy cow! He's been divorced for 25 years though and I think his ex know about his 'affairs'. How coincidental is that!
On another note, I was supposed to go to dinner with Mr. Needy, but I called him and said I wasn't available. We might meet either Monday or Wednesday. But am I only postponing the inevitable to tell him that he's coming on too strong too soon? Perhaps I could be a real meanie and not call him at all. We'll see.
On another note, I was supposed to go to dinner with Mr. Needy, but I called him and said I wasn't available. We might meet either Monday or Wednesday. But am I only postponing the inevitable to tell him that he's coming on too strong too soon? Perhaps I could be a real meanie and not call him at all. We'll see.
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
Too Much, Too Soon?
Alright already! I'm getting inundated with e-mails, texts and IM's. Enough! I mean I haven't even met this guy. We did have 2 phone calls and I heard his voice (which was rather nice), but it's rather awkward when you don't know what to say. And sometimes I just don't feel like making 'small talk'. We're supposed to have dinner tomorrow night. Yessssss, (a long, drawn out yes.......) I'll meet him, but the way things are looking now, I feel like telling him to take a hike! The question is: will the chemistry be there?
Why can't there be some 'happy medium' with people. Why is it all or nothing? I never led him on or led him to believe I was his 'honey' or 'darling'. Come on already!
As you can tell, I'm in a rather aggravated mood. I feel like signing myself off ALL dating sites at this rate and telling all men to take a long walk off a short pier. In addition to all of this, Mr. "EX" and I are meeting for dinner tonight. I thought I'd cancel, but we're supposed to be friends now, so maybe it's just like meeting another girlfriend for a nice, sushi dinner? NOT! I feel very nervous, hence the troubled tummy. After all, I haven't seen this guy in 3 months!!! Wouldn't it be nice to 'call in sick' to everyone and everything just for the day and crawl under the covers? Hmmmm.....
The question is simply this: when I meet this guy tomorrow night, should I tell him to ease off (in a nice way), or leave it alone? Any advice from anyone, would be much appreciated.
Signing off until tomorrow.....and I'm sure I'll have a lot to talk about then!
Why can't there be some 'happy medium' with people. Why is it all or nothing? I never led him on or led him to believe I was his 'honey' or 'darling'. Come on already!
As you can tell, I'm in a rather aggravated mood. I feel like signing myself off ALL dating sites at this rate and telling all men to take a long walk off a short pier. In addition to all of this, Mr. "EX" and I are meeting for dinner tonight. I thought I'd cancel, but we're supposed to be friends now, so maybe it's just like meeting another girlfriend for a nice, sushi dinner? NOT! I feel very nervous, hence the troubled tummy. After all, I haven't seen this guy in 3 months!!! Wouldn't it be nice to 'call in sick' to everyone and everything just for the day and crawl under the covers? Hmmmm.....
The question is simply this: when I meet this guy tomorrow night, should I tell him to ease off (in a nice way), or leave it alone? Any advice from anyone, would be much appreciated.
Signing off until tomorrow.....and I'm sure I'll have a lot to talk about then!
Monday, April 18, 2011
Teacher's Pet?
His first e-mail came out of nowhere. Well, actually from Match.com. I was still in NY when I received the first one. He wanted to correspond and eventually meet. I checked out his profile and he seemed like a nice man; interesting and a gentlemen. He teaches American History in high school. (My daughter would be delighted since that is what she teaches.)
This past weekend I received several e-mails, several texts and dozens of IM's. Is this 'overkill' or is he just being a nice sweet, old-fashioned guy? I remember when I first started dating my late husband.back in the mid-60's. Of course, this was before cell phones, computers, texting, instant messages and e-mails. I received so many beautiful letters and cards with poems that he wrote himself and I loved every one of them. He was a true romantic and always a gentlemen.......
Could this guy be a gentlemen too in our computer-savvy world?
We have tentatively arranged to meet on Thursday, depending on each other's schedules. Since I really liked his attention and voice, could there be 'instant chemistry' or is this another dud? Time will tell!
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This past weekend I received several e-mails, several texts and dozens of IM's. Is this 'overkill' or is he just being a nice sweet, old-fashioned guy? I remember when I first started dating my late husband.back in the mid-60's. Of course, this was before cell phones, computers, texting, instant messages and e-mails. I received so many beautiful letters and cards with poems that he wrote himself and I loved every one of them. He was a true romantic and always a gentlemen.......
Could this guy be a gentlemen too in our computer-savvy world?
We have tentatively arranged to meet on Thursday, depending on each other's schedules. Since I really liked his attention and voice, could there be 'instant chemistry' or is this another dud? Time will tell!
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Friday, April 15, 2011
New Kid on the Block?
I received a really nice e-mail from someone from another dating site that I belong to. He seemed very intelligent and it looks as though we share the same interests. He was going to the French Foreign Film Festival in Hollywood and really couldn't speak much. He did say welcome to SoCal and he would like to introduce me to some of his friends. He provided his phone number and I'm supposed to call him Monday morning. Ugh! The dreaded phone call.
Meeting his friends might actually be very nice. Meeting new people is always nice, right? But you never know. It's really hard to look at a man's picture and really see through it and tell if this guy is nice or an alien from another planet. That's the problem with 'on-line' dating.
Needless to say, I'm a traditionalist and I want to be wined and dined and treated like a lady. I know that's old-fashioned, but in my generation, that's what a gentlemen did. Are there any more 'gentlemen' out there, or am I just kidding myself? Well, welcome to the 21 century, I suppose!
Next installment.......the phone call.
Meeting his friends might actually be very nice. Meeting new people is always nice, right? But you never know. It's really hard to look at a man's picture and really see through it and tell if this guy is nice or an alien from another planet. That's the problem with 'on-line' dating.
Needless to say, I'm a traditionalist and I want to be wined and dined and treated like a lady. I know that's old-fashioned, but in my generation, that's what a gentlemen did. Are there any more 'gentlemen' out there, or am I just kidding myself? Well, welcome to the 21 century, I suppose!
Next installment.......the phone call.
Thursday, April 14, 2011
A Little White Lie
As expected, Mr. B called last night. Incidentally, Mr. B is DEFINITELY NOT Mr. Big but Mr. Boring!
Am I going straight to hell because I told him a little white lie? I told him I had to baby sit for two days and that I'd call him next week. Well, Mr. B, don't hold your breath! Oooohhh, it's totally out of character for me to be so mean! Sure, there are those that will say, "but you should have given him a chance". You know, I could just tell. It was woman's intuition or a 'gut' feeling that this guy and I wouldn't hit it off. So why spend precious minutes on someone who doesn't even sound interesting?
Second Chances. (Guess that's for another post.)
So am I giving a 'second chance' to Mr. X when I meet him for dinner next Wednesday night? No, we're just friends having a sushi dinner together. NOTE: Please remind me of that next week. JUST FRIENDS!!!!!
In the meantime, to reiterate, telling little white lies can be alright sometimes. Dishonesty can be beneficial at times, I suppose. Let's face it: I'm sure EVERYONE has told a few in their lifetime. Sometimes it's the only way out of a bad (or could be) situation. Now, GUILT, well that's for even another post!
Am I going straight to hell because I told him a little white lie? I told him I had to baby sit for two days and that I'd call him next week. Well, Mr. B, don't hold your breath! Oooohhh, it's totally out of character for me to be so mean! Sure, there are those that will say, "but you should have given him a chance". You know, I could just tell. It was woman's intuition or a 'gut' feeling that this guy and I wouldn't hit it off. So why spend precious minutes on someone who doesn't even sound interesting?
Second Chances. (Guess that's for another post.)
So am I giving a 'second chance' to Mr. X when I meet him for dinner next Wednesday night? No, we're just friends having a sushi dinner together. NOTE: Please remind me of that next week. JUST FRIENDS!!!!!
In the meantime, to reiterate, telling little white lies can be alright sometimes. Dishonesty can be beneficial at times, I suppose. Let's face it: I'm sure EVERYONE has told a few in their lifetime. Sometimes it's the only way out of a bad (or could be) situation. Now, GUILT, well that's for even another post!
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
Don't Call Me, I'll Call You!
When I was in NY last week, I received an e-mail from an unknown Match.com male person. He looked nice enough, so I responded saying I'd be back in SoCal on 4/10. Of course, he e-mailed (right on schedule) and also included his phone number. Being the nice person that I am, I called him. STUPID! I can hereby say that I'd rather watch paint dry then talk with this guy. He sounded soooo boring! Now he wants to meet for coffee!!
I told him to call me tonight to discuss our coffee meeting for Thursday morning. I REALLY DON'T WANT TO HAVE COFFEE WITH THIS GUY!!!!!!! What to do, what to do, what to do?????
Here are some scenarios that I've been playing with to say NO:
Why do I get myself into these things? I swear....I think I'm going on strike from ALL the dating websites!
I told him to call me tonight to discuss our coffee meeting for Thursday morning. I REALLY DON'T WANT TO HAVE COFFEE WITH THIS GUY!!!!!!! What to do, what to do, what to do?????
Here are some scenarios that I've been playing with to say NO:
- I can let the phone ring and ring and ring and ring;
- I can disguise my voice and say "Marianne doesn't live here anymore"!;
- I can answer it and say "No, no, no.......never, never, never;
- I can lie and say I have to babysit ALL day on Thursday;
- I can say, "I'll call you soon."
Why do I get myself into these things? I swear....I think I'm going on strike from ALL the dating websites!
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
The "X" Factor
[I have been away in the Big Apple for 10 days, that is why there has been a lapse in communication.]
Okay....so why is it that 'good girls' go for 'bad' men? I have done the 'unspeakable' and e-mailed my "X". I mean after all, he DUMPED me! According to him, he went back to HIS 'X'. When we left each other, way back in January, we said we would be friends. So yesterday I asked him to meet for a Sushi lunch or dinner. He responded and I think we're meeting sometime next week, but just as friends. Hmmmm......a line from "When Harry Met Sally" comes to mind. Harry: ..... men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way. Sally: .....That's not true, I have a number of men friends and there's is no sex involved.
So who's right? Interesting isn't it? I would love to agree with Sally, but deep down I think men always have in the back of their mind the sex issue. Isn't it true that men DON'T think with their brains?
All of my 'followers' have reason to yell at me, but for some reason I can't get this guy out of my mind. Maybe because he was my 'first' after my loving marriage with my husband.
Where do we go now? I'll keep you posted, literally!
Okay....so why is it that 'good girls' go for 'bad' men? I have done the 'unspeakable' and e-mailed my "X". I mean after all, he DUMPED me! According to him, he went back to HIS 'X'. When we left each other, way back in January, we said we would be friends. So yesterday I asked him to meet for a Sushi lunch or dinner. He responded and I think we're meeting sometime next week, but just as friends. Hmmmm......a line from "When Harry Met Sally" comes to mind. Harry: ..... men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way. Sally: .....That's not true, I have a number of men friends and there's is no sex involved.
So who's right? Interesting isn't it? I would love to agree with Sally, but deep down I think men always have in the back of their mind the sex issue. Isn't it true that men DON'T think with their brains?
All of my 'followers' have reason to yell at me, but for some reason I can't get this guy out of my mind. Maybe because he was my 'first' after my loving marriage with my husband.
Where do we go now? I'll keep you posted, literally!
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
The One R - READING
Does anybody read anymore? I sent a friendly e-mail to a good looking, local man, mentioning nothing at all about sports, exercise, running etc. and I really DID get a response. But here's the catch: he writes 'finally I have someone to run with'. Did he actually read my profile? There's no where in my profile that says I like to run. Sure, I exercise a few times a week at the gym, but I do not run, have NEVER run and never intend to run! I promptly answered by quoting the above, in a nicer way, of course. NOTE: As it is 24 hours later, I'm not holding my breath to get another response.
I think that's the problem with many things in this society. Reading AND listening is SO important but, unfortunately, many people don't do either anymore! It's pretty sad, isn't it? Parents are constantly telling their kids to pick up a book and read. How many times while you were growing up did you hear this phrase from your parents, 'you're not listening to me'! Well, I guess this guy never listened to his parents! Read, listen and be alert.
All of the above is not a big deal in the dating game, but reading is very important in EVERY aspect of life. Please pass that on!
I think that's the problem with many things in this society. Reading AND listening is SO important but, unfortunately, many people don't do either anymore! It's pretty sad, isn't it? Parents are constantly telling their kids to pick up a book and read. How many times while you were growing up did you hear this phrase from your parents, 'you're not listening to me'! Well, I guess this guy never listened to his parents! Read, listen and be alert.
All of the above is not a big deal in the dating game, but reading is very important in EVERY aspect of life. Please pass that on!
Sunday, March 27, 2011
To Write or Not to Write....That is the Question?
It seems I'm writing alot of e-mails lately but no one is responding. Perhaps I'm not composing my message correctly or they don't like the font or the letter size? What is it with these people?
I was brought up to be polite and when someone wrote me a letter (back in the ancient days before e-mails), I would answer it. Maybe not the minute I got it, but I did not let it go unwritten. It wouldn't be polite to not answer it at all. So what is it with these guys? Are they all rude, impolite, uncaring, jerks?
It would be easy for me to say, "Guess I'll give up." But I'll keep on sending those e-mails and keep on winking. Somebody, some day will say "hello" out there in cyber world!
I was brought up to be polite and when someone wrote me a letter (back in the ancient days before e-mails), I would answer it. Maybe not the minute I got it, but I did not let it go unwritten. It wouldn't be polite to not answer it at all. So what is it with these guys? Are they all rude, impolite, uncaring, jerks?
It would be easy for me to say, "Guess I'll give up." But I'll keep on sending those e-mails and keep on winking. Somebody, some day will say "hello" out there in cyber world!
Saturday, March 26, 2011
If A Man Answers??
A song comes to my mind from the 1960's. "You Keep Me Hanging On" sung by Diana Ross and the Supremes. (This song has recently resurfaced on "Glee".)
So here's the question: If you join a dating website and get an e-mail from someone, why don't you answer the e-mail? Don't leave the person 'hanging on'! This behavior is totally unacceptable and rude. At least say, "I'm not interested, I don't think we're a good match or I live in Katmandu and I couldn't do the commute!
What's wrong with that scenario? I keep asking myself that question.
People that join dating websites have one thing in mind: they want to see if they 'match' with similar interests, looks, location etc. So if someone e-mails you, with the possibility of 'matching', shouldn't the person answer it? A person can certainly get discontented with this behavior and would probably want to quit the whole thing. But, if anything, I am tenacious and I will keep on 'truckin'!
Seriously, there should be a 'dog' dating website that 'match' people with dogs! Dogs are so much more dedicated, devoted, reliable, trustworthy, loving, sincere, etc. I could keep adding adjectives here, but anyone who is a dog owner, knows what I mean.
Bow Wow for Now!
So here's the question: If you join a dating website and get an e-mail from someone, why don't you answer the e-mail? Don't leave the person 'hanging on'! This behavior is totally unacceptable and rude. At least say, "I'm not interested, I don't think we're a good match or I live in Katmandu and I couldn't do the commute!
What's wrong with that scenario? I keep asking myself that question.
People that join dating websites have one thing in mind: they want to see if they 'match' with similar interests, looks, location etc. So if someone e-mails you, with the possibility of 'matching', shouldn't the person answer it? A person can certainly get discontented with this behavior and would probably want to quit the whole thing. But, if anything, I am tenacious and I will keep on 'truckin'!
Seriously, there should be a 'dog' dating website that 'match' people with dogs! Dogs are so much more dedicated, devoted, reliable, trustworthy, loving, sincere, etc. I could keep adding adjectives here, but anyone who is a dog owner, knows what I mean.
Bow Wow for Now!
Thursday, March 24, 2011
First Time
Ok. This is my first time Blogging. Didn't think I could do it! But here I am. I feel like Carrie Bradshaw in "Sex and the City". Which brings me to the real reason why I really DID invent this Blog.
You see, my husband passed away last year and I did a 360 degree turnaround with my life. I retired from my job, gave up my apartment and moved to Southern California. Yes, they took the Brooklyn girl and turned her into a valley girl!
So getting back to the title of this Blog, "Single in Cyberspace", has dating really changed that much over the years? Way back in the 1960's, dating was usually done in the traditional way: boy meets girl (at a party, through friends, in high school/college, at a disco/bar, etc.). The boy and the girl "go steady", get engaged, get married, and you know the rest.
Now, in the 21st century, it's all about joining a dating website. With all the ones out there, it's mind boggling!. So I decided to take the plunge and joined 4 of them! But here's the catch: two were free, two weren't. (I dropped one and still belong to three.)
Well, let me just say......this is purely a lot of work! Pages and pages of faces meet your eye on your little screen. The big question: so who really is Mr. Right? Who would be a nice guy? Who would be honest? Who is not a stalker or a serial killer? Is the 55 year old really 55 or is he really 75 TRYING to look like 55? Who knows????
I remember when I was a naive 18 year old and went into clubs and discos. Boys on one side, girls on the other. (Some things never change, do they?) Anyway, the boys used to 'rate' the girls as they walked into the joint. Were they kidding me?
So it's still very much like that as I 'flip' through the screens and screens of 'cyberfaces' and rate all of those faces.
Therefore, doesn't it really feel like the 1960's all over again except this time we're not 'flesh & blood' but a face on a page hoping to make a connection?
Sometimes when you think things change, they really don't.......
You see, my husband passed away last year and I did a 360 degree turnaround with my life. I retired from my job, gave up my apartment and moved to Southern California. Yes, they took the Brooklyn girl and turned her into a valley girl!
So getting back to the title of this Blog, "Single in Cyberspace", has dating really changed that much over the years? Way back in the 1960's, dating was usually done in the traditional way: boy meets girl (at a party, through friends, in high school/college, at a disco/bar, etc.). The boy and the girl "go steady", get engaged, get married, and you know the rest.
Now, in the 21st century, it's all about joining a dating website. With all the ones out there, it's mind boggling!. So I decided to take the plunge and joined 4 of them! But here's the catch: two were free, two weren't. (I dropped one and still belong to three.)
Well, let me just say......this is purely a lot of work! Pages and pages of faces meet your eye on your little screen. The big question: so who really is Mr. Right? Who would be a nice guy? Who would be honest? Who is not a stalker or a serial killer? Is the 55 year old really 55 or is he really 75 TRYING to look like 55? Who knows????
I remember when I was a naive 18 year old and went into clubs and discos. Boys on one side, girls on the other. (Some things never change, do they?) Anyway, the boys used to 'rate' the girls as they walked into the joint. Were they kidding me?
So it's still very much like that as I 'flip' through the screens and screens of 'cyberfaces' and rate all of those faces.
Therefore, doesn't it really feel like the 1960's all over again except this time we're not 'flesh & blood' but a face on a page hoping to make a connection?
Sometimes when you think things change, they really don't.......
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