Literally. He lives in the same town as I do! How convenient is that! He called me last night. I had been in touch with him about two weeks ago. We chatted for about 1/2 hour and it was finally nice to have someone to have an intelligent conversation with. He knows a lot about theater which intrigued me from the beginning. He knows how to convert VHS tapes to DVD's too. That's another plus!
After all of the phone calls that I've had over these last few months, it was actually nice that there were no 'pregnant pauses' in the conversation. I mean never having met a person and just getting over the initial introductions, what else is there to talk about? We had plenty to say......
Coming from a theater background from my husband and daughter, I'm up on movies (old and new), movie quotes and general movie trivia. So is he.
Next step.......we're supposed to have lunch next week. Since he lives in the same town and nearby, it shouldn't be much of a problem. We'll see.........
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
A Face in the Crowd
Faces. So many faces. No names, but lots of faces. Scrolling through these 'nameless faces' is daunting. There's hundreds. Pick me, choose me, I'm the one for you! It's like trying to buy a new car!
This whole dating on-line process can be annoying. Who do you pick? How do you know he's a good person and not a serial killer? What do you share in common and will it work?
I feel like I'm at the supermarket choosing a slab of steak in the meat counter. Which one? There are so many choices and decisions in life. Should I e-mail or wink? And what does he think when he's doing his 'search'? Hmmmm......one can only imagine.
Last week when I had sushi with Mr. EX, he said 'his' current 'flame' was a pain in the _ _ _! I said to him "you know you'll never be happy". He reply was that he was looking for the 'perfect' woman! Seriously!!!!
I told him the 'perfect' woman did not exist nor did the 'perfect' man. He's a grown up man and not 6 years old! Come on!
So the question is: is this what all men think? I'm sorry but WAKE UP! This is not Fantasy Land or Candy Land or the Land of Oz. It's the real world fellows!
At this rate, it's really amazing how anyone meets anyone!!
This whole dating on-line process can be annoying. Who do you pick? How do you know he's a good person and not a serial killer? What do you share in common and will it work?
I feel like I'm at the supermarket choosing a slab of steak in the meat counter. Which one? There are so many choices and decisions in life. Should I e-mail or wink? And what does he think when he's doing his 'search'? Hmmmm......one can only imagine.
Last week when I had sushi with Mr. EX, he said 'his' current 'flame' was a pain in the _ _ _! I said to him "you know you'll never be happy". He reply was that he was looking for the 'perfect' woman! Seriously!!!!
I told him the 'perfect' woman did not exist nor did the 'perfect' man. He's a grown up man and not 6 years old! Come on!
So the question is: is this what all men think? I'm sorry but WAKE UP! This is not Fantasy Land or Candy Land or the Land of Oz. It's the real world fellows!
At this rate, it's really amazing how anyone meets anyone!!
Thursday, April 21, 2011
Hugs All Around
It looks like all of my worrying was for nothing. Dinner with Mr. "EX" turned out to be very, very nice with no hitches or glitches. We ate at the sushi bar and talked alot. It was very pleasant and it was all I wanted it to be. No complications. It was just like two girlfriends having dinner together. Funny thing happened though: while we were finishing up, in walked his wife and his two kids! Holy cow! He's been divorced for 25 years though and I think his ex know about his 'affairs'. How coincidental is that!
On another note, I was supposed to go to dinner with Mr. Needy, but I called him and said I wasn't available. We might meet either Monday or Wednesday. But am I only postponing the inevitable to tell him that he's coming on too strong too soon? Perhaps I could be a real meanie and not call him at all. We'll see.
On another note, I was supposed to go to dinner with Mr. Needy, but I called him and said I wasn't available. We might meet either Monday or Wednesday. But am I only postponing the inevitable to tell him that he's coming on too strong too soon? Perhaps I could be a real meanie and not call him at all. We'll see.
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
Too Much, Too Soon?
Alright already! I'm getting inundated with e-mails, texts and IM's. Enough! I mean I haven't even met this guy. We did have 2 phone calls and I heard his voice (which was rather nice), but it's rather awkward when you don't know what to say. And sometimes I just don't feel like making 'small talk'. We're supposed to have dinner tomorrow night. Yessssss, (a long, drawn out yes.......) I'll meet him, but the way things are looking now, I feel like telling him to take a hike! The question is: will the chemistry be there?
Why can't there be some 'happy medium' with people. Why is it all or nothing? I never led him on or led him to believe I was his 'honey' or 'darling'. Come on already!
As you can tell, I'm in a rather aggravated mood. I feel like signing myself off ALL dating sites at this rate and telling all men to take a long walk off a short pier. In addition to all of this, Mr. "EX" and I are meeting for dinner tonight. I thought I'd cancel, but we're supposed to be friends now, so maybe it's just like meeting another girlfriend for a nice, sushi dinner? NOT! I feel very nervous, hence the troubled tummy. After all, I haven't seen this guy in 3 months!!! Wouldn't it be nice to 'call in sick' to everyone and everything just for the day and crawl under the covers? Hmmmm.....
The question is simply this: when I meet this guy tomorrow night, should I tell him to ease off (in a nice way), or leave it alone? Any advice from anyone, would be much appreciated.
Signing off until tomorrow.....and I'm sure I'll have a lot to talk about then!
Why can't there be some 'happy medium' with people. Why is it all or nothing? I never led him on or led him to believe I was his 'honey' or 'darling'. Come on already!
As you can tell, I'm in a rather aggravated mood. I feel like signing myself off ALL dating sites at this rate and telling all men to take a long walk off a short pier. In addition to all of this, Mr. "EX" and I are meeting for dinner tonight. I thought I'd cancel, but we're supposed to be friends now, so maybe it's just like meeting another girlfriend for a nice, sushi dinner? NOT! I feel very nervous, hence the troubled tummy. After all, I haven't seen this guy in 3 months!!! Wouldn't it be nice to 'call in sick' to everyone and everything just for the day and crawl under the covers? Hmmmm.....
The question is simply this: when I meet this guy tomorrow night, should I tell him to ease off (in a nice way), or leave it alone? Any advice from anyone, would be much appreciated.
Signing off until tomorrow.....and I'm sure I'll have a lot to talk about then!
Monday, April 18, 2011
Teacher's Pet?
His first e-mail came out of nowhere. Well, actually from Match.com. I was still in NY when I received the first one. He wanted to correspond and eventually meet. I checked out his profile and he seemed like a nice man; interesting and a gentlemen. He teaches American History in high school. (My daughter would be delighted since that is what she teaches.)
This past weekend I received several e-mails, several texts and dozens of IM's. Is this 'overkill' or is he just being a nice sweet, old-fashioned guy? I remember when I first started dating my late husband.back in the mid-60's. Of course, this was before cell phones, computers, texting, instant messages and e-mails. I received so many beautiful letters and cards with poems that he wrote himself and I loved every one of them. He was a true romantic and always a gentlemen.......
Could this guy be a gentlemen too in our computer-savvy world?
We have tentatively arranged to meet on Thursday, depending on each other's schedules. Since I really liked his attention and voice, could there be 'instant chemistry' or is this another dud? Time will tell!
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This past weekend I received several e-mails, several texts and dozens of IM's. Is this 'overkill' or is he just being a nice sweet, old-fashioned guy? I remember when I first started dating my late husband.back in the mid-60's. Of course, this was before cell phones, computers, texting, instant messages and e-mails. I received so many beautiful letters and cards with poems that he wrote himself and I loved every one of them. He was a true romantic and always a gentlemen.......
Could this guy be a gentlemen too in our computer-savvy world?
We have tentatively arranged to meet on Thursday, depending on each other's schedules. Since I really liked his attention and voice, could there be 'instant chemistry' or is this another dud? Time will tell!
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Friday, April 15, 2011
New Kid on the Block?
I received a really nice e-mail from someone from another dating site that I belong to. He seemed very intelligent and it looks as though we share the same interests. He was going to the French Foreign Film Festival in Hollywood and really couldn't speak much. He did say welcome to SoCal and he would like to introduce me to some of his friends. He provided his phone number and I'm supposed to call him Monday morning. Ugh! The dreaded phone call.
Meeting his friends might actually be very nice. Meeting new people is always nice, right? But you never know. It's really hard to look at a man's picture and really see through it and tell if this guy is nice or an alien from another planet. That's the problem with 'on-line' dating.
Needless to say, I'm a traditionalist and I want to be wined and dined and treated like a lady. I know that's old-fashioned, but in my generation, that's what a gentlemen did. Are there any more 'gentlemen' out there, or am I just kidding myself? Well, welcome to the 21 century, I suppose!
Next installment.......the phone call.
Meeting his friends might actually be very nice. Meeting new people is always nice, right? But you never know. It's really hard to look at a man's picture and really see through it and tell if this guy is nice or an alien from another planet. That's the problem with 'on-line' dating.
Needless to say, I'm a traditionalist and I want to be wined and dined and treated like a lady. I know that's old-fashioned, but in my generation, that's what a gentlemen did. Are there any more 'gentlemen' out there, or am I just kidding myself? Well, welcome to the 21 century, I suppose!
Next installment.......the phone call.
Thursday, April 14, 2011
A Little White Lie
As expected, Mr. B called last night. Incidentally, Mr. B is DEFINITELY NOT Mr. Big but Mr. Boring!
Am I going straight to hell because I told him a little white lie? I told him I had to baby sit for two days and that I'd call him next week. Well, Mr. B, don't hold your breath! Oooohhh, it's totally out of character for me to be so mean! Sure, there are those that will say, "but you should have given him a chance". You know, I could just tell. It was woman's intuition or a 'gut' feeling that this guy and I wouldn't hit it off. So why spend precious minutes on someone who doesn't even sound interesting?
Second Chances. (Guess that's for another post.)
So am I giving a 'second chance' to Mr. X when I meet him for dinner next Wednesday night? No, we're just friends having a sushi dinner together. NOTE: Please remind me of that next week. JUST FRIENDS!!!!!
In the meantime, to reiterate, telling little white lies can be alright sometimes. Dishonesty can be beneficial at times, I suppose. Let's face it: I'm sure EVERYONE has told a few in their lifetime. Sometimes it's the only way out of a bad (or could be) situation. Now, GUILT, well that's for even another post!
Am I going straight to hell because I told him a little white lie? I told him I had to baby sit for two days and that I'd call him next week. Well, Mr. B, don't hold your breath! Oooohhh, it's totally out of character for me to be so mean! Sure, there are those that will say, "but you should have given him a chance". You know, I could just tell. It was woman's intuition or a 'gut' feeling that this guy and I wouldn't hit it off. So why spend precious minutes on someone who doesn't even sound interesting?
Second Chances. (Guess that's for another post.)
So am I giving a 'second chance' to Mr. X when I meet him for dinner next Wednesday night? No, we're just friends having a sushi dinner together. NOTE: Please remind me of that next week. JUST FRIENDS!!!!!
In the meantime, to reiterate, telling little white lies can be alright sometimes. Dishonesty can be beneficial at times, I suppose. Let's face it: I'm sure EVERYONE has told a few in their lifetime. Sometimes it's the only way out of a bad (or could be) situation. Now, GUILT, well that's for even another post!
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
Don't Call Me, I'll Call You!
When I was in NY last week, I received an e-mail from an unknown Match.com male person. He looked nice enough, so I responded saying I'd be back in SoCal on 4/10. Of course, he e-mailed (right on schedule) and also included his phone number. Being the nice person that I am, I called him. STUPID! I can hereby say that I'd rather watch paint dry then talk with this guy. He sounded soooo boring! Now he wants to meet for coffee!!
I told him to call me tonight to discuss our coffee meeting for Thursday morning. I REALLY DON'T WANT TO HAVE COFFEE WITH THIS GUY!!!!!!! What to do, what to do, what to do?????
Here are some scenarios that I've been playing with to say NO:
Why do I get myself into these things? I swear....I think I'm going on strike from ALL the dating websites!
I told him to call me tonight to discuss our coffee meeting for Thursday morning. I REALLY DON'T WANT TO HAVE COFFEE WITH THIS GUY!!!!!!! What to do, what to do, what to do?????
Here are some scenarios that I've been playing with to say NO:
- I can let the phone ring and ring and ring and ring;
- I can disguise my voice and say "Marianne doesn't live here anymore"!;
- I can answer it and say "No, no, no.......never, never, never;
- I can lie and say I have to babysit ALL day on Thursday;
- I can say, "I'll call you soon."
Why do I get myself into these things? I swear....I think I'm going on strike from ALL the dating websites!
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
The "X" Factor
[I have been away in the Big Apple for 10 days, that is why there has been a lapse in communication.]
Okay....so why is it that 'good girls' go for 'bad' men? I have done the 'unspeakable' and e-mailed my "X". I mean after all, he DUMPED me! According to him, he went back to HIS 'X'. When we left each other, way back in January, we said we would be friends. So yesterday I asked him to meet for a Sushi lunch or dinner. He responded and I think we're meeting sometime next week, but just as friends. Hmmmm......a line from "When Harry Met Sally" comes to mind. Harry: ..... men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way. Sally: .....That's not true, I have a number of men friends and there's is no sex involved.
So who's right? Interesting isn't it? I would love to agree with Sally, but deep down I think men always have in the back of their mind the sex issue. Isn't it true that men DON'T think with their brains?
All of my 'followers' have reason to yell at me, but for some reason I can't get this guy out of my mind. Maybe because he was my 'first' after my loving marriage with my husband.
Where do we go now? I'll keep you posted, literally!
Okay....so why is it that 'good girls' go for 'bad' men? I have done the 'unspeakable' and e-mailed my "X". I mean after all, he DUMPED me! According to him, he went back to HIS 'X'. When we left each other, way back in January, we said we would be friends. So yesterday I asked him to meet for a Sushi lunch or dinner. He responded and I think we're meeting sometime next week, but just as friends. Hmmmm......a line from "When Harry Met Sally" comes to mind. Harry: ..... men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way. Sally: .....That's not true, I have a number of men friends and there's is no sex involved.
So who's right? Interesting isn't it? I would love to agree with Sally, but deep down I think men always have in the back of their mind the sex issue. Isn't it true that men DON'T think with their brains?
All of my 'followers' have reason to yell at me, but for some reason I can't get this guy out of my mind. Maybe because he was my 'first' after my loving marriage with my husband.
Where do we go now? I'll keep you posted, literally!
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